Every. Single. Time.
No. Never had that thought.
Any night that I’m just sitting alone at home I consider kind of a disappointment. I try to at least go for a walk or something.
I think Lemmy (and maybe social media in general) might have a greater proportion of people who don’t like going out and being social.
No because anything is better than being surrounded by hostile people in your own home 24/7.
I hope it get’s better for you.
Thanks
Nah I love going out
Yes. I only want to go out to quieter places, where you can hear yourself think and talk: parks (nature in general), libraries, museums, coffee shops, bookstores, quirky mom and pop shops, tiny restaurants, etc.
Otherwise, I’d much rather stay at home.
My old high school friends were all extroverts who loved going out to bars and clubs, drinking heavily (and smoking), and skirt-chasing. That’s what hanging out meant. One day, in my mid-twenties, I just couldn’t do it anymore. I realized “I’m not having any fun with these people at all.” So I ghosted all of them. I feel guilty about it at times, but I had to.
You could’ve also talked to them about it. Ghosting is such an asshole move, making them question whether it was their fault, when in reality you just reached the conclusion that you want to spend your free time differently
It was also a long time ago
Almost daily!
Nah, I always think that it’s even better than I could comprehend inside. (being stressed in your own home is not fun)
I can’t go anywhere with noisy crowds. The sensory stimulation is too much for me. It’s not fun feeling ready to snap at any moment. Anytime I try going to the wrong kind of places I will regret it, so yeah.
I tend to enjoy it once Im out, it’s just overcoming that inertia to go out that’s hard for me
Frequently the opposite thought occurs, and I have a good time. I recommend forgetting yourself and asking people around you to tell you about themselves. They’ll soon ask you about you. You can make friends that way. If they don’t ever ask about you, they’re an asshole.
Yea, I’m just not interested any more.
I used to want to understand people better, but it’s always the same old thing - everyone’s got a chip on their shoulder and it’s tiresome dealing with that.
I just wanna hang out and get to know you, but that chip really gets in the way.
I try to avoid going out at annoying times - e.g., rush hour, school zones, restaurants on a Friday or Saturday night. That helps a lot.
Once and a while I go to the Movies and often end up asking why I thought it was a good idea to pay exorbitant prices for the 30 mins of mixed ads/previews, all for a cliche plot of yet another reboot. Which inspires me to not go to the movies for another 6 months or year, and just go for a run outside.
I’m queer and once had a date with a black woman from the States while living in Dublin, Ireland. She asked me if I could be her local tourist guide. Sure thing!
Walked her all across the shitty overpriced city centre. At some point she asked me:
“Am I the only black person around here?”
Eventually decided to ditch the CC and take a taxi to my local area.
Waltzed into my regular pub holding hands, cuddeling.
The entire place filled with white cis locals went dead silent like in a bad cliche movie.
“Harry, two pints of the black stuff, will ye?”
Peeps realised that at least I was a local and continued minding their own business.
Jeez…
Tribal mentality. A lot of people conform to the ‘Hate them… not you though, you’re one of ours’ mindset.
“Fucking hate poofs. Not Barry though, he grew up around here, he’s alright.”
“We should shoot all the [insert racist bollocks here]. Not Abdul who runs the corner shop though, he calls me ‘boss’ when I go in.”
Etc. If only their sense of tribe extended a bit further.
Nope. I usually think “I should go out more” and then when I’m still recovering two days later I think “Ah, this is why I don’t go out more.”
And when you look at your bank account the next day
Why would I do that to myself, I wait for the credit card statement and take it all in at a gulp
If I don’t look at my account online, does it even really exist?
No, but I usually go to places I want to go to
