• ShranTheWaterPoloFan@startrek.website
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    Are you happy?

    It seems like you are lashing out randomly and have a world view that everything is orchestrated to harm you.

    You all made sure no one would ever care about me, even going so far as to kill yourselves to guarantee it.

    You believe that people have killed themselves to make your life worse? I don’t want to sound mean, but you aren’t the only person.

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      Are you happy?

      No, I’m not a happiness addict. Happiness is not the goal - it’s the failure state. Happiness means I’ve become an abusive monster, like you.

      You believe that people have killed themselves to make your life worse? I don’t want to sound mean, but you aren’t the only person.

      I know. They’ve done the same to and for other people. Bigotry affects millions of people - I’m simply an equal one of those affected.

      I’m simply trying to convince people that I"m an equal one of them, but their bigotry makes them refuse to accept that - just as it does to the equality of many others. The only difference between me and other victims of bigotry is that I don’t belong to a group.

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        Happiness is not the goal - it’s the failure state. Happiness means I’ve become an abusive monster, like you.

        That’s a wild take man. Like what are you talking about? Can you tell me exactly what I’ve done to be an “abusive monster”? Could you elaborate on how happiness is only the result of being abusive?

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          Happiness is like a drug; it is addictive, and “taking” it loses effectiveness over time. This means every person needs to do more extreme things to achieve the same happiness. Eventually, they need to start abusive others in order to achieve the same “high”.

          You may not be actively abusive yet, but you have to quit cold-turkey and run directly away from happiness in order to avoid the grip it will gain on you.

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            I’m going to disagree with you. I have found it takes less to make me happy as I get older. Moreover, my happiest moments are those where others are happy. I take no pleasure in harming others and I don’t believe that’s a unique perspective.

            I think your coping mechanisms have made your life more difficult.

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              I think your coping mechanisms have made your life more difficult.

              By definition that’s not possible. Unless you’re accusing me of being incompetent; correct exercise of coping mechanisms cannot make life more difficult because they’re engineered as a ratchet.

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                It is common to develop a drug or alcohol addiction as part of a coping mechanism. That can absolutely make your life more difficult. Coping mechanisms can make it more difficult to make changes that will better your life.

                The path of least resistance isn’t always the easiest path.