Hi all. One of my biggest issues is emotional dysregulation.

I have noticed that a big thing is that I don’t have any activities that I can do for a prolonged period of time when frustrated. These “calming techniques” like breathing and the 5-4-3-2-1 thing only work for for a minute or so and then I’m back to flipping out. I need it to be both physical AND mental though. Only tackling physical leaves too much time for rumination…and only tackling mental doesn’t get out the high energy.

So I think I need something to bridge the gap here between the techniques to immediately and temporarily calm you and when I eventually feel better again.

Here are ideas I DON’T want:

  • Exercise - I find that exercise has never been mentally engaging enough to make me feel better. It actually will often do the opposite of what people say it does. It gives me more time to think and ruminate. Exercise for me will magnify my current emotions, which is beneficial if I am already happy, but absolutely terrible for me if I am already frustrated. Plus if I’m frustrated at like 3am, going outside to exercise is dangerous for me lol.

  • Writing down your feelings - Again, I feel like I’m missing something here. Doing that doesn’t make me feel better…it makes me ruminate and focus on the problem more, making me even more upset. And then I’m more inclined to send the thing I wrote to others which can damage relationships or be self destructive.

Positive ideas

  • Canvas painting - I absolutely have NO idea how to do anything artistic…but my thought is that you can angrily let your feelings out and splatter things onto a canvas…and then as you get more calm to morph it into something productive??? Dunno. But I have a screened in patio so I feel like I have the space to both be messy back there and to be able to do it in the middle of the night. I’m wondering if it would be too complicated with all the supplies needed or something though.

  • Video games - Actually seem to work to take my mind off of things, BUT there is no physical aspect to them. When I am physically calmer, they help me to not ruminate…but again I feel like I have a gap period between where I need more physical activity.

Thanks all I know it’s long lol.

    • matilija@lemmy.worldEnglish
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      1 day ago

      Take some Yin Yoga classes. It’s a much slower pace than other yoga (holding poses for 3-5 minutes each), and a proper Yin class also focuses on mindfulness during the activity. The goal is to clear your thoughts and bring your focus only to your body and your breath. Different instructors will approach it differently, of course, and not all studios even offer Yin. Forgive yourself for a wandering mind, just observe it when it happens and then recenter your focus on your breath.

      It’s also probably the best stretching you’ll ever do.