OldSoulHippie [he/him]

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Cake day: May 9th, 2021

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  • I was going to make my own post but yours is basically my situation. I am the one who isn’t really on top of it, like your partner. We both have our own bank accounts that we get our checks deposited into and then we have a joint bank account that we both contribute to. We have an excel spreadsheet for all of our bills and expenses. We take the total number and divide by two and each pay in our half. We make roughly the same amount of money so that is what we came up for “fair” on our joint bills. We also account for vacation funds and small/large projects and emergency funds. It’s nice to have a round amount that I’m expected to put in every check. It’s reliable

    We each pay our car note out of what’s left over after contributing to the joint account. What’s left over in our personal accounts is for personal expenses like snacks and gas. It’s also how we pay for our own hobbies. It’s also a good way to hide a purchase like a birthday present.

    If asked, I would show her my personal bank statements and she would show me hers. There’s not really any mystery as to what goes on with our personal accounts. They’re mostly used to save up for things the other wouldn’t get anything out of. I couldn’t expect my wife to throw down on a guitar she would never use for example.

    The flip side of that is: why don’t we just put it all in the same account and give each other a hobby allowance? I don’t have a good answer. Maybe we will go that way some day.

    Just wanted to add on to the conversation. I didn’t start out as a very responsible person. Getting on a budget and having a bed time are the things that changed my life the most









  • Wife and I were renting a trailer in a trailer park some years back and one night we were getting intimate. Well, we were just about to get to the good part when all of a sudden our whole room is illuminated by a flood light and we hear someone shouting outside. Begrudgingly I get dressed and look out the window. There’s a man with a flashlight looking in windows and banging on doors at my neighbors place yelling a woman’s name.

    I called the police because it seemed like someone trying to cause trouble. The police informed me that the man was the police and he was serving a warrant for the neighbor.

    I couldn’t believe how shitty they were being about it, waking up the whole neighborhood. She was a mess though. Another time I was leaving for work in the morning and I hear her tearing into her boyfriend/husband or whatever. She chased him out into the street with a baby in a car seat and left the baby in the road while she chased his car down the road. I sat and waited to make sure she didn’t just leave the baby and then went to work. Reported her that time too.

    I’m sure I’ve had worse “fails” but I’ve been with my wife for ten years now and I don’t really hold space in my brain for past relationships