Pretty much title, I’ve got a formal wedding to go to in October and I’m not a formal person. Can I wear these docs without looking like a jerk

  • BenchpressMuyDebil
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    6 days ago

    There’s just a lot happening with these shoes:

    • the yellow contrast stitching
    • the tassels
    • the “penny-like” leather horizontal strap to which the tassels are attached to
    • the kilt

    Whoever was designing those knew they’re mixing three types of loafers (tassel, penny, kilted). They’re pretty much designed to grab attention. And with classic formal menswear the goal is to normally do the opposite.

    Even if the rest of the outfit was perfect (e.g. if you had loose wool pants with a large leg opening to cover most of the shoes etc.) it’d still end up looking fashion forward at best if you pulled it off. It’d help if you’re 18-22 yrs old.

    I know it sucks having to buy yet another pair of shoes just to wear them once for a wedding. You still have a lot of time till October so maybe thrift/Vinted some cap toe oxfords till then?

    • Imgonnatrythis@sh.itjust.works
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      7 days ago

      I agree. These look like a way to cram more elements of flair into a tgi Friday’s waiter outfit. I’m afraid that outside of that scenario I don’t see theses going well with anything I’m afraid.

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        Yeah, penny loafers or tassel loafers would work as something more relaxed. Depends what they mean by “formal” on the invitation. Black or dark brown. Maybe you could find Sebago Joe penny loafers on sale somewhere as a lower end option. G.H. Bass Weejuns are supposedly not good these days though. Massimo Dutti should have something if you’re shooting lower and are in EU.

        For a step up from Sebago in EU there’s Meermin, Carmina, TLB Mallorca etc.

        • iamericandre@lemmy.worldOP
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          Says tux preferred but black suit is ok too. I’m a little annoyed here because I have to buy a new suit since I never really attend formal events.

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            7 days ago

            Oh if it’s a tux (as in, not “suit” but actual tuxedo) then you can’t really do loafers. I think the only option that makes sense here is black cap toe oxford.

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                Still, go for oxfords. Don’t have to be cap toe. Make sure they’re not brogue. People probably wouldn’t bat an eye at derbys either, but oxfords are best. ‘Black suit or tux’ really isn’t a dress code that allows for any loafers whatsoever. If it HAS to be one of the two pairs you posted, go for the ones with no contrast yellow stitching, as they’ll at least draw less negative attention (but likely still some, since they specifically stated a dress code like this).

                • noodles@slrpnk.net
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                  6 days ago

                  Not technically loafers but opera pumps would also be appropriate–though a big statement these days–with a tuxedo, if OP is determined to have slip ons

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            My rule was, if I am attending an event rarely in my life, then rental is more appropriate. But semi frequent, like one event a year, buy a black suit. It doesn’t hurt to have, and also a blue navy blazer for semi formal events were you have dress up but it is not tux formal. A black suit can be made very formal with white shirt, tie and loafers. Or more informal with fun shirts and more fashion shoes for other big events. A well tailored suit is a powerful item in the wordrobe.