I’ve learned that waxing (sugaring, actually) hits the exact same mechanism in my brain as SI, without leaving scars, and leaves me with nice smooth skin that’s well exfoliated. Only problem is that I’m a guy, and people think it’s weird that I sugar my entire body. But OMG, the relief. I intentionally don’t do everything at once, so that I can sugar at least once a week if I want to, so I’ve always got that as an outlet.
I mean, I’m not encouraging self harm. But sugaring has been an excellent alternative to self harm for me.
I make my own, and it takes forfuckingever to get the recipe right, but I recommend just looking up sugar wax recipes on YouTube. You apply against the direction of growth (against the grain), and remove it in the direction of growth (with the grain). The exact opposite of traditional wax.
A couple tips I’ve learned:
Always shower first, dry completely, and then powder. I use corn starch.
You do not want to be in a super hot room (like a steamy bathroom after showering)
If you make your wax too hard, you can soften it slightly by putting it in the microwave for no more than 10 seconds. Be very careful, it is much hotter than you think. Your fingers and hands can handle much hotter temps than your legs and naughty bits.
If your wax is too thin, you can apply it to the skin, and then apply a piece of cotton or muslin, and use it like strip wax (again, in the opposite directions to standard wax). Unlike traditional wax, you can reuse these strips by just running them under hot water and allowing them to dry.
Traditional wax can only really go over an area once or twice, because it is pulling at healthy, living skin. Sugaring can over the same area as many times as you like, as it only sticks to the dry, dead skin and hair. It leaves healthy skin alone. Added perk is dead skin removal.
You can use the same piece of sugar as many times as you like. I generally toss it when it turns white.
If you’re a guy or have particularly thick facial hairs (like hirsutism from PCOS or something), it will work on facial hair, but I find it best in that scenario to use a strip, but not with the thin sugar. Use the regular thickness sugar and add a strip. It grips the hairs better. Apply the sugar, apply the strip, hold your hand against it with firm pressure to make sure it attaches well, and then remove your hand and let it cool for 30 seconds to a minute, and then rip it off and meet your God.
Making the sugar is not complicated. It’s just sugar, water, lemon juice. It’s basically caramel, but it’s all about temperature control. Get a candy thermometer. You can buy it premade, but it’s not as good…
The coolest part is that a failed batch of sugar nets you either a thin caramel syrup, or rock candy.
Edit:
Forgot the most important bit:
Wait about 24 hours, and then make sure you exfoliate the shit out whatever body parts you sugared. Chemical exfoliates are great, like salicylic acid, but you need to also use something rough and manually exfoliate as well. That’s how to prevent the ingrown hairs.
Dude. I’ve never self harmed but I HATE shaving. My waxer that I’ve gone to for almost 20 years retired recently and I’ve just let it all go. This information is mind blowing. THANK YOU.
I can only compare it to waxing a little bit. I got part of my arm and that little patch between my eyebrows waxed once, and it hurt like a sumbitch, not in a good way. Lol. The sugaring doesn’t really hurt at all, despite hitting that same mechanism in my brain as SI. And your skin is sooooo soft and smooth afterwards
Oh! I thought you were telling me off for not competitively swimming! Lmao. I genuinely thought I had, like, stumbled into the start of a flame war. Haha.
Okay but im in it for the harm, not the pain. Unevenness where a bone healed right-ish or skin has been replaced with scar tissue so many times i need context clues to guess what the skin color would be.
Seriously, she’s depressed and her legs are shaved?! Get real.
Never said she was depressed, only that they hit rock bottom.
You can be broke, have no friends, no job, no home, but still look at life positively.
They are mutually exclusive.
When I have depression bouts, keeping my beard groomed and keeping my hair somewhat okay is one way for me to mitigate the damage.
If I look like shit, chances are I will feel like shit. If I at least put some effort in looking decent, its one less thing to talk shit about.
thx… now I gotta go shave
I do that!
Its a great opportunity to self harm a little.
I’ve learned that waxing (sugaring, actually) hits the exact same mechanism in my brain as SI, without leaving scars, and leaves me with nice smooth skin that’s well exfoliated. Only problem is that I’m a guy, and people think it’s weird that I sugar my entire body. But OMG, the relief. I intentionally don’t do everything at once, so that I can sugar at least once a week if I want to, so I’ve always got that as an outlet.
If sugaring his entire body was good enough for Julius Caesar, it’s gotta be good enough for you.
Oh man I hope I discovered an outlet. Self harm my entire fucking life with either hair pulling or anger rages.
And I like being smooth. Uh oh.
What’s your method?
Editing this to articulate: yeah self harm is not cool. I’ve just struggled with it not glorifying.
I mean, I’m not encouraging self harm. But sugaring has been an excellent alternative to self harm for me.
I make my own, and it takes forfuckingever to get the recipe right, but I recommend just looking up sugar wax recipes on YouTube. You apply against the direction of growth (against the grain), and remove it in the direction of growth (with the grain). The exact opposite of traditional wax.
A couple tips I’ve learned:
Always shower first, dry completely, and then powder. I use corn starch.
You do not want to be in a super hot room (like a steamy bathroom after showering)
If you make your wax too hard, you can soften it slightly by putting it in the microwave for no more than 10 seconds. Be very careful, it is much hotter than you think. Your fingers and hands can handle much hotter temps than your legs and naughty bits.
If your wax is too thin, you can apply it to the skin, and then apply a piece of cotton or muslin, and use it like strip wax (again, in the opposite directions to standard wax). Unlike traditional wax, you can reuse these strips by just running them under hot water and allowing them to dry.
Traditional wax can only really go over an area once or twice, because it is pulling at healthy, living skin. Sugaring can over the same area as many times as you like, as it only sticks to the dry, dead skin and hair. It leaves healthy skin alone. Added perk is dead skin removal.
You can use the same piece of sugar as many times as you like. I generally toss it when it turns white.
If you’re a guy or have particularly thick facial hairs (like hirsutism from PCOS or something), it will work on facial hair, but I find it best in that scenario to use a strip, but not with the thin sugar. Use the regular thickness sugar and add a strip. It grips the hairs better. Apply the sugar, apply the strip, hold your hand against it with firm pressure to make sure it attaches well, and then remove your hand and let it cool for 30 seconds to a minute, and then rip it off and meet your God.
Making the sugar is not complicated. It’s just sugar, water, lemon juice. It’s basically caramel, but it’s all about temperature control. Get a candy thermometer. You can buy it premade, but it’s not as good…
The coolest part is that a failed batch of sugar nets you either a thin caramel syrup, or rock candy.
Edit:
Forgot the most important bit:
Wait about 24 hours, and then make sure you exfoliate the shit out whatever body parts you sugared. Chemical exfoliates are great, like salicylic acid, but you need to also use something rough and manually exfoliate as well. That’s how to prevent the ingrown hairs.
You seem to know your stuff. One might even say that you are … harmacurious
Dude. I’ve never self harmed but I HATE shaving. My waxer that I’ve gone to for almost 20 years retired recently and I’ve just let it all go. This information is mind blowing. THANK YOU.
I can only compare it to waxing a little bit. I got part of my arm and that little patch between my eyebrows waxed once, and it hurt like a sumbitch, not in a good way. Lol. The sugaring doesn’t really hurt at all, despite hitting that same mechanism in my brain as SI. And your skin is sooooo soft and smooth afterwards
Since this topic came up another weird substitute for SIB is consuming spicy food. Does not have to be a lot. Maybe give that one a go.
Just gotta get into swimming then. Whole body depilation is normal for swimmers, since body hair creates drag in the water and slows them down.
I love swimming, but I’m more of a “float really well and kinda nap while I do so” type than a competitive swimming type.
Though, occasionally when I go to the beach I end up making headlines if I lay out on the sand. “BEACHED WHALE SPOTTED”
Its still an excuse, people don’t pay much attention.
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Go for it. Just say its for swimming if you cant say ‘i just enjoy it’ it’ll work.
Oh! I thought you were telling me off for not competitively swimming! Lmao. I genuinely thought I had, like, stumbled into the start of a flame war. Haha.
🎶🎶"Pour some sugar on me…"🎶🎶🤟
Okay but im in it for the harm, not the pain. Unevenness where a bone healed right-ish or skin has been replaced with scar tissue so many times i need context clues to guess what the skin color would be.
Epilation for that extra kick!