Hey, it’s polite and a response. Pretty good in my book
I got a message soon after I started talking to someone where they said they wanted to see where their current thing went with somebody they’d met a few times, and like, yeah, thanks and I respect that. it seemed genuine. I was happy to get that message instead of chats just disappearing when it seemed like it was going well.
Y’know, I’m fine with it because it is at least professional. Better than getting ghosted or them being rude about it.
Trying to prevent you from getting threatening and nasty due to the threat to your “masculinity”.
For women, bluntness and honesty is treated as assault.
For men, retaliation is unremarkable and unnoticed until it’s too late.
Merger rejected.
at least they sent a message, good on her.
Is it really all that surprising that when
- Dating, especially with apps, has become for so many such a soul-crushing impersonal numbers game
- Enough people (but mostly fragile men) become menacing upon being rejected
- Enough people keep complaining about how bad it feels to get ghosted
someone would end up sending this?
Jesus Christ, try and get into other people’s shoes from time to time.
So, ghosting is bad and evil. At least tell the man you aren’t interested! Men are suffering due to ghosting! But also, don’t put him down when rejecting him. Men have to suffer so much rejection, so their ego is easily hurt. Let him down gently!!
Oh, you did? Well let me mock you for being TOO nice and diplomatic about it 😂.
Damn I’m so happy I’m not dating anymore. Feels like no way to do it right.
Fair enough statement about some of the comments here, but at least the original poster in the screenshot is taking it in good stride like you’re supposed to with a polite rejection.
I think this person broke up with ChatGPT
Indeed
Jaffa kree!
There are scattered reports of women using LLM bots in the dating process.
When two people are both trying to give bad news nicely they end up sounding similar.
Rejection is the antecedent for many behaviors, which are often dangerous. So we try a lot of ways to make it impersonal, kind, soften the blow…etc.
Thats because they are afraid you’re going to lose it and verbally, physically or mentally abuse them.
I had a friend call me one night because she said no to a guy and he started threatening to kill himself. Like damn. That’s some insane guilt-tripping, manipulative bullshit right out the gate. And this wasn’t the first time this happened to her too.
That reminds me of one of my ex’s, she did far worse things but that shit still fucked with my head a lot too.
It would be so hard me not to say “do it pussy.”
My mom did this in high school when a guy who was stalking her threatened to kill himself.
He’s still alive, over thirty years later.
The concern there is they may decide to take you with them.
Oh please, not every bitchass is worth worrying about. Just be smart and armed.
That’s the right answer.
It’s happened to me. I called his friend and they came and collected him and his stuff.
I have several such cases among my friends
Wait, aren’t women the ones more likely to use emotional manipulation though?
In my experience as a bi-woman, no. There are equally as many emotionally manipulative men and women. For men it often takes the form of “If you don’t do this physical thing (kiss, sex etc), you don’t like me.” or “If you ask for this security measure (meeting at a public place, using condomes), you don’t really like me.”
A small group of idiots can do a disproportionate amount of damage. These men can’t get and keep a lady, so go on a disproportionate number of first dates.
It’s the same with the inverse, “bunny boilers”. Far more men have been on the receiving end than most women expect. For women it’s even more extreme. It takes a woman a while to build to that emotional state. The male equivalent can go bang after just a few messages, or a single date.
What in the sexist generalizations
I mean, they started with “a few of”.
For those who didn’t know,
(AI)
A “bunny boiler” is a slang term for a dangerously obsessive, vengeful person (usually a woman) spurned by a lover, originating from the iconic 1987 film Fatal Attraction, where Glenn Close’s character boils a pet rabbit to terrorize her ex-lover’s family. The term describes an unstable individual prone to extreme, often violent, emotional outbursts after rejection, becoming a cultural shorthand for such behavior.And this shit?
The male equivalent can go bang after just a few messages, or a single date.
That’s only if you need women that badly, or men, or anything.
I just need my fellow male co-workers to stop being toxic, or threatening to do things to me.
I need my male friends to stop tearing me down too (taken care of, went no contact).
I got decent friends, but I’m stuck with certain crude co-workers who display disgusting behavior (like insisting I grab my female co-worker by the pussy, and so on).
EDIT: If it was not obvious, most of my disgruntment (and distrust for women by extension) is actually due to awful treatment from male friends. So if I could date at all, I would rather not, or would rather put it off, because I don’t want to get burned by women too. The lesson I guess, is that most of men’s suffering is actually from other men.
don’t be a doormat, proper response is ‘ok’
*edit for clarity, I’m talking about the guy threatening to kill himself, she needs to hard cutoff that guy
She called someone who she trusts in a time when she needed support. I made sure she was safe, calm and around people she felt safe being around for the rest of the night.
Before that night, we became our own little mental health support group so of course I’m going to make sure she feels safe after dealing with some unhinged shit like how that guy was acting.
Also she lives in a different country, her life is her own as much as my life is my own in my own country. It’s possible for two people to be friends, care for each other and not expect to be in an intimate or romantic relationship with each other.
what? not her my dude, him
i was so very confused
Aaah sorry, I thought the earlier comment initially came off as dismissive towards my friend. All good.
I don’t recall what my friend said but dude got kicked out of the glow-in-the-dark mini golf place and she got to have his drink for free before finding her safe friends again. Problem solved itself fortunately.
“men are scared women will laugh in their face, while women are scared it’s their lives men will take”
Still sounds like HR
They have police, cutting people off, & public shaming for that.
Men: crash out when they get ghosted
Also men:
Looks like the guy is in good humor about it, at least.
Didn’t see the emoji. Glad he’s not being salty
Yeah I was going to say if you’re going to get rejected then I’d far rather a response like this than just getting ghosted. In fact as far as rejections go, I can’t think of a better way of doing it.
What do other men expect, a consolation blow job?
AI gf are monogamous?
Find an HR person to begin with. Sign off that you watched the videos and stuff like this won’t happen.
Be sure to watch the videos.
And you have to score 80% or better on the quizzes!
