With forewarning about a huge influx of users, you know Lemmy.ml will go down. Even if people go to https://join-lemmy.org/instances and disperse among the great instances there, the servers will go down.
Ruqqus had this issue too. Every time there was a mass exodus from Reddit, Ruqqus would go down, and hardly reap the rewards.
Even if it’s not sustainable, just for one month, I’d like to see Lemmy.ml drastically boost their server power. If we can raise money as a community, what kind of server could we get for 100$? 500$? 1,000$?
Even if you choose Hetzner, it won’t even know it has anything to do with piracy because it will be just hosting the DB, and nobody will know where your DB is. That fear is overblown.
Likewise believe me a dedicated server is night and day from a VPS.