Hi everyone, i would like to know what makes you stand out from your immediate environment. It could be something physical or a feature that qualifies you.
I’ll go first, i have quite large feet from years of moving around barefooted and while growing up, i had to have shoes custom made as most of the good ones were made in general sizes only, i still have trouble getting shoes.
From my immediate environment? I sit on the toilet, the toilet does not sit on me.
For now
Also I wip with the TP The TP doesn’t wipe with me
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the bidet temporarily connects my butthole
with a near infinite series of tubes
containing pure water and in that moment
I am the clean water and the clean water is me
That’s some wild poetry there.
Bidets make me hard… I should get a Bidet
I’m mixed handed. Not to be confused with being ambidextrous.
Mix handedness (cross dominance) is where each hand is used for different things. I write and use silverware with my left hand but if I were to throw a ball or punch something I’d use my right hand.
Most of the time it results in me not knowing which hand doing a particular thing will be most comfortable with until I do it.
I had no idea there was a word for this, I’m the same way.
Large body dominance is different from fine motor handedness, write with right hand but stronger left side, cartwheel left hand first. Or vice versa. It is interesting as heck.
I’m one of the vice versa. Fine motor left handed, strength right handed. But yeah not ambidextrous. Even the cart wheel hand is the opposite. I find it interesting that exactly these subjects are vice versa.
That’s exactly how I am, I found out most of it came from my no-clear-dominance eyes. Quick reaction type stuff I usually use my right side, slow steady stuff I use my left side. Archery, shooting, writing, all left handed. Throwing, punching, Frisbee, right handed.
I agree with the unknown comfort with sides when trying something new. Occasionally I’ll even end up questioning if the other side is better when I do a very infrequent task. It’s like I forgot what hand I normally use
Well i’m in the .1% for height, I guess that helps me to stand out.
Head and shoulders above the rest.
I have a “unique” accent of some kind. Basically, I don’t sound like I’m from “around here”, even though I have lived in the same area for my entire life and so have my parents. Probably because I read a lot more than I actually talk to people.
I can basically ride a bicycle forever as long as I eat and drink enough, until the lack of sleep overwhelmes me.
People keep commenting on how extremely fit I must be.
But honestly, if you find the right pace it’s like a brisk walk, and if your bike and your clothes fit, it’s more comfortable than that.I would think the environment factors into that a lot too. I’ve had 30 mile rides kick my ass more than 80 mile rides due to things like hills and wind. But put me on a stationary bike and I could probably go 150+ miles in a day.
You must have Dutch blood.
I actually do. I participated in a 1-day 250km group ride in the Netherlands recently. But I did it on easy mode with a road bike, there were people riding a traditional baker’s bike (including the box) while wearing wooden clogs.
I don’t think I ever saw someone wear clogs there. Bicycling on an omafiets/opafiets is the way to do it.
Nothing.
Get close enough to me in a very quiet area, specifically close to my heart, and you will hear ticking noises. Freaked out my older brother once because of that scenario. Mechanical heart valve.
Ohhhhhh that would freak me out.
I dislike being observed. If someone comments on me in any capacity (clothes, looks, humor, etc.) Whether positive or negative I get uncomfortable.
That being said, currently a bright orange top.
Otherwise I’m a very average looking person who wears mostly black, dark blues, and some greys.
Reminds me of Jung’s theory around The Gaze, and how by ourselves we are our own subjects, capable of authoring our own paths, but as soon as another being is introduced and we’re subject to their gaze, their own aspect of being a subject necessarily forces some objectification upon us (and us on them). It’s interesting theory, and a good examination of why some people feel so incredibly uncomfortable with others around.
I may have to look into that to some. I’ve never been good around people, but specifically when they say something it’s much worse.
Sort of in a similar vein, I don’t like mirrors because it makes me see myself which presents an image that does not match the way I feel I present myself or my internal image of myself. it’s less a matter of attraction or confidence so much as a disillusionment.
I just learned about this, and think I have it too, to an extent. I’ve grown more comfortable as I move age and transform closer to the hag witch I was born to be.
It’s called a fear of being perceived, or scopophobia. Apparently it’s common with neurodivergence (though I personally wouldn’t consider myself neurodivergent- at least not enough to seek a diagnosis).
I have never heard of that, I’ll definitely look into it! I was given an ND prognosis many years ago though I did not stay with the practioner long enough after to get a full diagnosis. So it’s possible that plays into it.
I’ve gotten more accustomed as I age, definitely, comfortable maybe not so much. I am unsure if changing my appearance to closer match would change my affinity towards it, but I suppose that may be answered by looking more into the condition itself. But thank you for a name to start with
I used to feel the same way with mirrors and actually wanted to write into my will that all photos of me must be destroyed upon my death. The idea of being permanently recorded terrified me.
I think therapy really helped, since if anything my appearance has strayed further from my mental image. That’s not to say it’s the same for you. It’s a relief to me that I’m not the only one who has felt this way, and I hope that you find some relief from the feeling itself too.
I mostly just avoid mirrors and pictures as a whole and dress really tame so its not super bad. I could definitely use therapy for a multitude of reasons but I struggle to communicate things without prompt and am quite uncomfortable with the idea of sharing very personal stuff with, well, anyone. I do go through phases of erasing myself (as much as one can) from the internet, and from my own devices though.
I am glad to hear I’m not the only one, though it’s unfortunate others do suffer the same way. I do hope you continue to make progress and have it become a non-issue for you in the future
Same to you, friend.
I have been told, on multiple occasions, that I have a strong sense of justice. Somehow I doubt that’s a good thing, as all it’s done is get me in trouble.
Also have been told that I have a voice for radio. I was born about twenty years too late for that to be relevant, I always reply. “Start a podcast!” they say. I tell them I tried and it failed because I can read from a script great, but I have zero ability to be witty.
You should submit voice samples to casting agencies that land voice over talent for commercials, and other media formats.
You don’t need an agent or anything of the sort to get started, just a decent sample of your vocal work.
Get it submitted wherever you can, you’ll never know what might come of it.
I was a post production supervisor in Los Angeles for a bit. I worked with VO talent, many of whom had entirely separate careers.
One guy was a bus operator & rode his bus to the studio after shift change. He was awesome.
Yes, me too! The justice part. I am very principled. And it is something that I, sometimes (?) hate about myself. I think it mostly drives people away.
I figure many people on Lemmy are the same in that regard, very principled people.
This sounds like something you could fix with practice. Maybe try reading books out loud. People with pleasant voices can also make audio books, although I don’t know how much they pay.
Are you vegan?
No, but I (kinda) get it.
I don’t know what the reason is, but I have a large friend group of almost exclusively males, and I am a respected, listened to female, who can easily command the room. I can also deadlift twice my body weight.
Shit, that’s an impressive deadlift
Thank you, it was worth the crucial muscle groups sacrifice.
I’m Asian and live in rural Oregon.
I don’t know what part of the US Oregon is but i imagine Asians would always stand out in rural places
I always think I stand out but I probably don’t.
Have you tried barefoot shoes?
I’m very beautiful
Oh my
i don’t
I’m attractive, moderately charismatic, large, weird, generally kind, and unable to shut my damn mouth.
I’m able to blend into my surroundings, but I have to choose to. The rest of the time yeah, everyone figures out who I am
