Please don’t think I’m here to complain about rizz or skibidi toilet etc. Thats all fine by me.

The term I dislike strongly is ‘eeeh’ before you make a statement disagreeing with someone. (This is over text only). Now maybe I’ve been pavloved bc it’s always used by someone disagreeing. But I’m happy with people disagreeing with me normally its just the ‘eeeh’ or ‘erm’ that annoys me.

So what’s a random term that annoys you?

PS. Saying “eeeh actually ‘eeh’ is a perfectly fine term” would be a ridiculously easy joke and I will judge you for making it. And I know atleast one person will. Especially bow that I’ve said all this.

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    “cis” I feel like it’s an extra term for “straight”. The “default” for lack of a better term (and one that isn’t othering) is near the not trans & not gay part of the gender / sexuality spectra. To me everyone in that zone is “straight” (boring/default/whatever).

    begs the question” because people exclusively use it wrong. Just say “leads to the question” or “poses the question.”

    And I’m still really salty about everyone giving up on the term “literally” to allow it to mean its exact opposite.

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        The question was “what term annoys you” not “what term annoys you that you’re sure Lemmy will approve of” (or that a malignant narcissist billionaire isn’t also annoyed by).

        I’m open to an explanation of a commonplace situation where it’s necessary to have a separate word for “is of the gender that matches that assigned at birth.”

        To me it’s like if I say I enjoyed the sunrise" and someone says, “you mean the Earth sunrise?”

        I mean yeah, sunrises happen all over the solar system, there are different kinds of sunrises, probably all beautiful in their own ways, but in general the default “sunrise” a human is likely to be talking about is the one we experience on Earth.

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          Cis is just the opposite of trans. If some people are trans then it follows others are cis.

          20 years ago you’d be pissing and whining about the use of heterosexual.

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            but in general the default “sunrise” a human is likely to be talking about is the one we experience on Earth.

            In this example they, the CIS are human, and the non-cis is implied to be what? Non-human? This person sucks.

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          I’m open to an explanation of a commonplace situation where it’s necessary to have a separate word for “is of the gender that matches that assigned at birth.”

          trans people existing is that “commonplace situation” you worthless fucking worm

          cishets need mandatory re-education at a minimum. this one should just be shot.

          cissues

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          The question was “what term annoys you” not “what term annoys you that you’re sure Lemmy will approve of” (or that a malignant narcissist billionaire isn’t also annoyed by).

          Nowhere in that question does it say you are free from being criticized for your dumbshit worldview. It’s a public forum, you write something, don’t get surprised when people respond.

          To me it’s like if I say I enjoyed the sunrise" and someone says, “you mean the Earth sunrise?”.

          That’s incredibly weird. To me it’s like someone saying “I’m trans, and you?” And the other responding “I’m cis.” Funny how that works.

          I’m open to an explanation of a commonplace situation where it’s necessary to have a separate word for “is of the gender that matches that assigned at birth.”.

          See above. Also see: Whenever you need to classify yourself as cis-gender in any survey, form or likewise.

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      The “default” for lack of a better term

      There is a better term, it’s ‘cis’

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      Cis and straight are… Entirely different axes, though. How would you describe someone who is cis and gay, or trans and straight while applying “straight” to both sexual orientation and gender identity?

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      Dork cissie in SHAMBLES after conflating “cis” (gender matches that assigned at birth) and “straight” (attracted to the ‘opposite’ binary gender) to whine about how they are the DEFAULT and so the term annoys them.

      PIGPOOPBALLS

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      I find “cis” useful, personally. I’m bisexual, so certainly “straight” isn’t applicable. In a lot of contexts I’d use “cis” to refer to myself, I suppose “not trans” would also work, but it’d be clunkier.

      Plus, there are times when the thing I want to centre in my communication is the cisgender perspective that I have. For example, I was recently discussing with a friend that seeing trans friend’s gender euphoria improved my own relationship to my gender because it made me ask myself whether cis people could experience gender euphoria and if so, why couldn’t I recall any instances of experiencing it?

      I feel like the term “cisgender” implicitly acknowledges that voices and experiences like mine are important in building a shared understanding of gender — i.e. trans people aren’t the only ones who have a gender. Like, obviously I can’t speak directly about trans experiences, but that doesn’t mean that I’m expected to shut up and contribute nothing to the wider conversation.

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      • There are two kinds of races, white and political.
      • There are two kinds of gender identities, male and political.
      • There are two kinds of sexual attractions, straight and political.
      • There are two kinds of gender congruences, cis and political.

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      “Cis” is not an extra term for straight any more than “trans” is. These terms have nothing to do with sexual orientation. If you can handle the word “straight,” as opposed to “boring/default/whatever,” then you can also handle the word “cis” by the same logic.