Mine hit me with the “We’re spending all this money on you now so you can’t grow up and say we didn’t spend money on you when your were a kid.”
yeah. the majority of stuff they’d say was like that, in fact. it’s part of why i don’t talk to them anymore lol
My grandparents came to the US from Germany. Upon hearing my dad say black people that don’t like trumps (1.0) America should go back to Africa, i reminded him that most of them are way more American than we are. I could hear his brain break through the phone
Yeah my dad has said so many things that have left me stunned. I have had to explain tax brackets to this man so many fucking times. He keeps thinking if he goes up a bracket the overall tax % will increase and therefore he will actually have less money.
My da told me “God does not forgive people who curse his name.”
I asked “But God forgives people who sexually abuse kids?”
“If they ask for forgiveness, yes.”
wHy DoNt YoU aTtEnD cHuRcH aNyMoRe??? lmao shut up.
LOL, that’s not even scripturally correct. He doesn’t know his own faith! 😂 This is common, and really sad when you think about it, because their faith is their “single most important thing” in life & they’re so damn ignorant of it. Like…it’s one book. Read it, if you are so inclined?
There is only one sin earmarked as the eternal sin, the unforgivable sin. Explicitly described in Matthew 12:30–32, alluded to in other relevant passages. “Blasphemy of the Holy Spirit”. Even blasphemy against the Son of Man (Jesus) will be forgiven…but never the Holy Spirit. Because it’s simply too big of a contradiction or discrepancy in how the Christian faith operates & how one is saved. You have the “power of the Holy Spirit” working through you, working with Christ & God the Father on your behalf. Blasphemy against the Holy Spirit is largely interpreted as to deny that very power, the power that saves.
It is akin to needing hydration, but refusing to drink large amounts of any kind of liquid ever. Or needing an electrical charge to run a device, but never making a connection to transfer the power, you’re going to somehow “will” or speak the power into your phone. Well. That’s simply not how it works, and you’ll never have power.
I only explain to provide clarity of the Christian faith to others, I do not profess the faith present day, it has taken 25 years of my life. Others are welcome to comment, of course, but I’m not here to argue endlessly over “how many angels can dance on the point of a very fine needle”. As they say, and have done before, and has since morphed more colloquially into “on the head of a pin”. 😉
Damn, I’ve never blasphemed that one. I may die and end up in heaven due to my religious upbringing. Can’t have that…
FUCK THE HOLY SPIRIT
Cursing the holy spirit is not blaspheming the holy spirit.
The only way to blaspheme the Holy Spirit is to have the Holy Spirit move through you, where you know beyond any shadow of any doubt that the essence of God itself is working in your actions, to be purified and elevated above mankind, and then to claim that this purification, elevation, and miracle comes from the devil and not from God.
It is very difficult to do this, and even then, Jesus himself said you would be in danger of Hellfire, not guaranteed to go to Hell forever.
Well, at least you won’t spend Eternity with a bunch of kiddie diddlers that repent before the end.
Good on you.
I believe the “angels on the head of a pin” were Victorian scholars parodying the medieval debates they were studying at the time. It’s somewhat unfair because the mediaval scholars are much more sophisticated than that but the parody has endured.
Welcome to “I interpret scripture as whatever benefits me” or whatnot.
He’s actually a spiritual leader in our community. It all sucks. Lol
Also: taking the Lord’s name in vain is doing something bad and saying you did it for religious reasons.
Is that denominationally specific? I’ve never heard of it.
Knowing the actual theology is so rare in Christianity (or any religion) it’s basically not an important part. Which explains history.
They’re not on the same plane as everyone else. Fantasy delusion to the detriment of the living.
I’m American: my dad told me a couple years ago that immigrants were “unclean.” I’m almost 40, and that was the first time he’d ever used that phrase. That’s probably the first time I realized how “mainstream” extremism had become, since he has virtually zero online presence.
This is why red jurisdictions are a “no-go zone” for me as an Asian American first generation immigrant.
Just FYI, “first generation” refers to the first generation born in the adopted country. Which is to say, if you immigrated, your kids would be first generation Americans.
Hmm…
According to USCB, the first generation of immigrants is composed of individuals who are foreign-born, which includes naturalized citizens, lawful permanent residents, protracted temporary residents (such as long-staying foreign students and migrant workers, but not tourists and family visitors), humanitarian migrants (such as refugees and asylees), and even unauthorized migrants.
In some definitions, however, those born to at least one immigrant parent are considered “first generation” – or rather, first generation of an immigrant’s descendants (i.e., second generation from the USCB definition)
The term 1.5 generation or 1.5G, although not widely used, refers to first-generation immigrants who immigrated to the new country before or during their early teens, ages 6–12. They earn the label the “1.5 generation” because while they spend their formative years engaging in assimilation and socialization in the new country, they often still maintain native language, cultural traits and even national identities from their country of origin. Oftentimes, in the case of small children, a battle of linguistic comprehension occurs between their academic language and the language spoken at home. Their identity is, thus, a combination of new and old culture and tradition. Sociologist Rubén Rumbaut was among the first to use the term to examine outcomes among those arriving in the United States before adolescence, but since then the term has expanded to include foreign students, as well as other unique individuals.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Immigrant_generations
I guess I’m just using the American definition. I’m 1.5 Generation by that definition.
Interesting. I was explicitly taught differently in school.
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Sobering up left a void. He filled it with a different bad vice. Gotta have something positive to replace a vice before attempting to remove it
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I went on a trip to another country. Unfortunately, I had an accident (involving a fucking hurricane) that almost killed me.I had insurance so they covered all the medical expenses, including tickets and accomdations for one of my parents (aka: one of them could come free of charge). They decided that it was a good opportunity to visit the country since one was coming “for free” and they only had to pay for the other one.
Years later, my father told me that they are still paying the debt for the money they spent “because of me” when I had that accident so it was my fault they were in debt.
So just to reiterate: What they’re paying off is literally just one of their vacation bills? I mean this would be an odd accusation even if it included other expenses but like… Huh?!
Apparently, going from europe to america buying the ticket at last minute is very expensive, they also had to add the stay in the hotel for one of them. For what he said, he spent around 9k euro on that trip (odd, i paid around 1500 for two people). Still, he threw that to me to make me feel guilty of their shitty spending habits. It was some years ago, when our relationship was already ice cold.
They both are shitty parents and now they wonder why I don’t talk to them.
Damn. Yeah sounds like a very mature and responsible person 😬 I’ve got a dad like that too.
Yeah they… are not good parents. They always were more interested in drinking than in growing their kids. And they both try to make you feel miserable because they now have understood that they lost their children due to their own selfishness and ego.
When he tried to make me feel bad for almost dying in another country, it was the thing that snapped and made me cut the already thin ties completely.
Even if you hadn’t had insurance and they didn’t take a vacation, but one of them visited you to make sure their kid was treated well, that’s a fucking insane thing to say.
Just sitting and having a casual lunch with my dad at work. Sack lunches that my mom had made us! When he nonchalantly tells me that women aren’t people and only exist for men’s enjoyment. I basically completely froze out of shock as he spends the next half hour trying to use excerpts from the Bible to prove his point.
I haven’t had a conversation with him since and that was nearly 20 years ago. Also realized that Christianity is not something I want to be associated with.
Funny thing is that he used to be adamant that god uses Parkinson’s to punish only the worst sinners and he’s got it now… Apparently there was some engine cleaning solvent my mom desperately tried to get him to stop using? The government banned it because it was giving people Parkinson’s so he stocked up on it to prove my mom wrong…
Ayyy my da told me that line about women, too!
I also am a woman!
Holy shit I’m so sorry
It’s okay.
Really messed me up, tbh. Told that my purpose as a woman was to get married and “please my husband”, no matter what.
As a teen, my desire to like boys never manifested. My youth pastor would preach about how women were princesses whose desire was to be saved by a knight, and men were knights seeking adventure. I always wanted the adventure, and I was completely ostracized for it.
Imagine being told that your purpose is to be loved, then realizing that your true self is something nobody will ever love.
It’s disturbing, and I was severely depressed throughout my entire young & teenage years.
(it got much worse, but I don’t want to go over that. Just know that I escaped that shit eventually.)
Thanks for letting us know that you escaped.
And just so you know: I love my girlfriend, because she is the adventurer between us. She climbs mountains and explores exotic countries, she’s rugged and confident and the coolest person I know. She is my knight and although I’m no princess, she is very much loved for wanting adventure.
Using the wrong engine cleaning solvent is a terrible sin and he’s being punished for his hubris
Unhinged!! 😮😳
That end is poetic.
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Like he’ll it ain’t. Almost every Christian sect teaches that women are “less then” ,there may not be a direct quote in the book saying woman are not real people. But the teachings of the churches most definitely leans that way.
The account you are replying to is a troll account and should be taken with 0 seriousness.👍
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That’s why we can have a woman as the pope, right?
So one of you jokers reported my reply despite it violating zero community or sitewide rules
It’s pretty clear your bigotry for theism makes all of you incapable of a rational conversation on this topic
And you assumed it was me because… why? Lol mate, I haven’t reported you
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Yes. My mom, unprompted one day, said:
“Did you guys know that Elon Musk’s Dad owns an emerald mine?”
Followed by me saying “yes, did you also know he used slave labor in apartheid South Africa to build it?”
“Well I don’t really care about any of that. I just thought it was cool.”
It’s brutal when the mask inevitably comes off and you realise that your parents, who were once like gods, are in fact retarded.
Slightly tangential, but it’s beyond any reason that her and my dad can read the exact same Bible and parse different meanings from it. My dad is the least judgmental, least preachy Christian I know. She missed the memo, it seems.
45,000 + denominations of Christianity. Bound to be one or two differences.
True Christians leave the judgement to God. Your dad’s one of the good ones.
😩😭😭, No it’s the worst. To find out that your parents are in fact retarded. They lack common sense, and they are just simply not able to learn about anything in regards to subjects or topics. Oh and don’t get my started on a one narrative regurgitated MSM news that spit out lies and shit. They are just stupid and easily brainwashed and have no common sense. They live in their own delusional bubble.
That’s a cop out. It’s not stupidity. It’s hate.
I think to some extent hate is born of stupidity, certainly fear. Probably a combination of both, fear and stupidity = hate.
thats how conservatives think, they selective hear what they want to hear.
Yep, that would be hard to respond to. WTF.
When I was little, I did something bad (I don’t even remember what it was), and my mom got angry with me about it, and I was already crying, and I asked her “Do you still love me?” and she said “I don’t know”, and that shit has stuck with me forever and I’m sure contributes to the fact that I don’t truly trust anyone. If I brought it up to her now, she’d 100% deny it.
If I brought it up to her now, she’d 100% deny it
The axe forgets; the tree remembers. It’s why we should be far, far more careful than we usually are about throwing around things like that.
That’s rough. I still love you, pal.
Aw, thanks, guy.
Call me buddy, friend.
Light that gas right up, mom.
I found out my parent’s computer had a lot viruses because they are dumb and bought a McAffee subscription. I told them, they answered that they knew better than me, I replied that I had a degree in computer sciences, and my father laughed like the fucking idiot he is.
Let’s say we don’t talk about my job or computer anymore. Also I reduced the visits and phone calls that they had because I’m tired with their bullshit.
Been there. Told my genius step-father that his hand-me-down rig (from me) was showing signs of being on its last legs and he didn’t believe me.
Fast forward: it dies.
How do you think he reacted? Yeah.
I looked at him dead in the eyes and said, “if only someone with a lifetimes experience had warned you…” and walked away.
Not my problem. Made him buy a new one.
While writing my master thesis my professor suddenly left the university. Noone ever really knew why and there was no official statement other than a short sentence on the website that Prof. XYZ has left the department. My master thesis was on hold while I had to find a new professor. My mother, who has always accused me of being lazy and lying, insisted that it was all a lie. When I pointed out the news on the university website, she said: “I don’t know how you hacked the website and got it to display your lies, but I’m not falling for your deceit.” I am not a computer science major, I studied linguistics.
I am not a computer science major, I studied linguistics.
We’re not falling for your deceit, Noam Chomsky. You probably used some context-free grammar to hack the website.
You’re in a masters program and your mom thinks you’re lazy…
Well, according to her, university degrees are all worthless nowadays and “a masters is at a level a high school degree used to be at”. She also told me my As were worthless because “everybody gets an A nowadays just for showing up to class”.
I have a lot of respect for you! Keep being motivated and being ambitious!
What are you supposed to do? Is there anything you could do that would be valuable in her eyes?
Nope. I’ve been no contact for years, but when I still had contact, she just kept moving the goalpost. When I had good grades in school: They don’t mean anything, only the grades for Abitur (A-Levels) count. When I had good grades in Abitur: It means nothing, noone will ever ask for your Abitur grades again. Only the university degree counts. When I had my bachelors: Bachelor is worthless, only the master is a REAL degree. When I had my master degree: The master degree is worthless… And that’s the point where I cut contact with her.
“What do you mean you’re working? You’re just sitting in your room all day.”
just like the trope of asian parents, not good enough.
don’t we love a trusting parent
Back when Wicked, the musical, was brand new & the hot topic & it was just so so cool culturally speaking – my high school choir was going to take a field trip day to go & watch it live in a big city. 🤩 Time off of school, going to this cool musical, it’s a no-brainer. Right?
My parents told me I couldn’t go because there was a 20-25% chance of snowfall. Combined with a significant 2+ hour commute, there was a chance I wouldn’t make it back home by 6:40 PM on a Wednesday night, and that would cause me to miss the hour long 7 PM Wednesday night church services. 🥴🥴🥴🥴
Not even Sunday morning, most of everyone’s day of rest. Wednesday. Night. Services. Couldn’t even take a chance on missing that. That was…“special”… 🙄 Religious brainwashing at its finest!
Going to see witches vs saving your soul, it’s a no brainer, really.
Church of christ?
The day my niece was born, my mom had asked me to wake her up so that she could be there after the birth.
Apparently, me actually doing what she asked me to do turned out to be a grave insult.
She ended up yelling and screaming at me, which triggered me, so I started yelling and screaming at her, and then she hit me with the only thing she could think of to actually hurt me.
See, from before I get into that, I’ve got to explain that from the time I was 15 until I graduated high school at 17, my mom and my stepdad essentially locked me in my room and only let me out for punishment, which was digging up stumps in the backyard or picking up a rock from one pile and hauling it to another pile, picking up a different rock from that pile, hauling that one to the third pile, back and forth. for eight to ten hours a day, And for going to school, just enough to prevent CPS from being called on them.
There was also a healthy dose of corporal punishment on top of that, being beaten for half an hour or longer for the smallest infraction.
It really messed with my head because I honestly thought like at some point they would come to their senses and realize how absurd the entire thing was and apologize and they never fucking did.
Anyway, now that we’ve got the groundwork in place, my mom decided she would say the thing that she could think of to hurt me, which was to tell me that her mother, my evil grandmother, had convinced her to do all of those things because otherwise no one would ever love me.
And why is it that otherwise no one would ever love me?
because I’m not white
My mom had shamed the entire family by marrying a Native American and giving birth to his child, And my grandmother, who is evil for multiple reasons, and I’ll be glad to go into those, cause may she rot in piss, was a terrible person, had decided that the only way to cleanse the family of the stain of my existence was to psychologically induce my own mother into tormenting me in every single possible way she could.
And so every single time I think about all the opportunities I missed out on and all the times my mom wasn’t there for me and all of the times that I was neglected and abused throughout my entire childhood, it all rolls back to my grandmother being a racist cunt, and my mother somehow not realizing that for what it was, and just being a good little flying monkey and doing whatever her mother told her to do with her own fucking child.
So yeah, I was abused because my grandmother is racist, and I didn’t find out about that until I was 23 years old.
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No, you’re not breaking it to me. This is something I already know quite well.
I didn’t know it at the time, though.
I was blessed with that hopeful naivety of a child who tells themselves “if they just love hard enough, eventually it will all come together” that abusive people truly relish.
I’m so sorry this happened to you. You mentioned that the naivite of a child helped you not remembering this as so bad. I would like to suggest as kindly as possible you attend therapy for a while to process this out of sheer self love.
You didn’t deserve this and you sure as hell don’t deserve the invisible wounds that this presumably left. You deserve life and love and please love yourself and your chocolate skin. :)
I’m native, not black, lol. My skin is more caramel.
Well caramel is as delicious, same rule applies :)
My dad, the tech genius that he is, has been against every minor step forward since the 90’s:
“Why do i need an answering machine, if they need me, they’ll call back.” He worked for himself as a handyman, so this is plain ridiculous. Finally, someone gives him an answering machine and suddenly it’s “This is awesome! I never miss a call! I’ve got so much work!” Later it was “Why do I need a debit card? I can just write a check!” which evolved to “It’s so convenient! I can get gas, even when they’re closed!” He repeated the answering machine argument when cell phones arrived, and repeated the results when he finally got one.
It’s a running theme in his life. The one that really gobsmacked me was when he proudly declared “the Internet can’t hurt me if i don’t get on it!”
“the Internet can’t hurt me if i don’t get on it!”
Wise words, old man. o7
I think the saddest part about this is the phenomenon where people who didn’t understand tech were scared of new stuff that was actually really neat and helpful…
…and nowadays they’re ridiculously trusting of shiny user-friendly corporate garbage that spies on them and manipulates them.
Hilariously relevant username, considering I was just going to reply with a “we’re too far from swinging in the trees now to handle it”.
Haha yay, first time I got a “username checks out”! :D hahaha.
Reject predatory techbro products, return to monke! XD
Just last week I was re-patching some nasty piece of business logic at a client for a day and remembered the application “Filter Top” from the nineties, where I solved a similar (but slightly simpler) problem on a far inferior less advanced platform in a few minutes with a GUI even.
Return to monke. I’m with you.
I fought against getting a contactless debit card for so long. I used to call my bank a month or so before my card expired demanding a non-contactless card. “But sir, you could just not activate the contact…” I don’t want any of it. I’d say “when I forget my pin it’s time to go home” paying chip and PIN like a peasant. I probably said “PIN Number” for how stupid I was being.
Anyway, contactless payment is awesome.
My fears are still grounded. Originally it was because, near weekly, I saw someone paying with a card they just picked off the floor. I hated the limit being so high long before they raised it, let alon after they raised it again. Also a skill check before ordering another beer has some merit.
i went tapa nd pay with CC recently, because i was still using the sliding feature for the longest time, because cc stealers can easily put on thier readers in a matter of seconds you wouldnt know.
So when you walk up to a terminal with your Visa and you tap your card it inputs a one time code. That code only matches up on the point of sale/banks end. If they take the same code and try to transmit it at say Wendy’s, it won’t work, as it has already been used. If someone swipes your card with a magnetic strip, or reads the numbers off manually and enters them online/in person/or over the phone the information will stay the same and can be used at elsewhere.
Most of the anti tap worries are unfounded fear. Also the terminals that allow payments for two to pay also get registered so if someone steals a terminal to modify it, the terminal would be reported stolen by the owner, or if the terminal was purchased by the theif, it would have to be registered by them, and once again can get an investigation pointed in their direction fairly quickly. Is it possible to beat, I’m sure, but it’s MUCH easier to just jot down the numbers or skim thee strip
Tell me you’re American without telling me you’re American. That hasn’t been an option where I am for nearly 2 decades.
I had moved away a few years and my mother was homeless due to her own choices and lack of effort to do anything. My wife and I were in town visiting her family, and we decided to take my mother out to dinner. During the meal she was (rightly) complaining about the perils of being homeless and having to watch out for the pigs. I suggested that she look into getting into some government housing. You know her response?
“I don’t want to be the light in he dark.”
If you’re as confused as I pretended I was, she means she didn’t want to live with/around black people. Which was really fucking surprising to me, considering we had lived with, around, and had been friends with all kinds of POC growing up (as you you tend to do in poor and mixed neighborhoods and when you have to rent out rooms to get by). That level of racism was rather surprising, but she had become toxic as fuck in the years before I moved, so it shouldn’t have been.
does she have a job? and if not, was it the same reason to, because i dont “like working with POCs”