I love sleeping, honk-shoo is so goated.
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How can I ever tell anyone? How can I be who I want?
You told us, that’s a pretty big step! Assuming you mean telling people IRL, I know the thought is probably scary. It was for me. But as I did it, I eventually realized how empowering it was. I was telling people who i was myself rather than just going along with what society had decided I was.
If you’re struggling to find someone who you want to start with, maybe see if there are any LGBTQ+ centers near you or meetups. You can go and introduce yourself as who you really are, and find yourself.
I can’t wait to read some coming out stories if you decide to post them :)
You don’t have to start HRT to be Trans, ever at any point. But if you DO want to, estrogen is slow and subtle, taking time. It also can have positive mental effects.
While you’re working things out socially (finding support groups, getting advice etc), you could be quietly changing physically.
Definitely start thinking about whether you want to feminize your body; estrogen is pretty nice and a lot of us wish we had started earlier.
I would start today if I could.
What country do you live in?
Or, may I introduce you to our lord and savior, diy?
USA. I don’t know how I’ll deal with all the people who know me. I feel like I’ll have to quit my job and move away.
Planned parenthood does informed consent hrt. Just tell them you want be on estrogen hrt and they’ll give it to you :) or you can diy- just order it in the mail. Either way you could be on it pretty much immediately.
I don’t think getting another job is the worst thing in the world. I know people who have transitioned and stayed at their job, you can do whichever.
Alright! Do you want help figuring out how to proceed with starting HRT?
I guess I’ll have to go to the doctor, right? But how do I convince people it’s what I really want? How do I know it’s not a phase or something?
It depends on where you live - in some places it’s easier to go through a doctor, and in other places it’s easier yo buy hormones without a prescription.
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Don’t I know it
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Invent a woman - whoever you want - and pretend to be her. Eventually you don’t have to pretend anymore
You don’t have to tell anyone. You can do absolutely nothing if that’s what works for you; that doesn’t make you any less trans. (Doing nothing was my original plan btw, and it was good enough for me until it wasn’t)
For me, what has been working is to figure out a small step that you’re comfortable with and start there. Maybe it’s wearing something cute around the house. Then maybe that’s good for a while but you don’t want to have to change before you go to the store or get the mail or whatever. The little step is enough until it isn’t, but also, the more times you take that same step the more comfortable you feel with the idea of another one.
When I started coming out I had to talk about everything kinda obliquely, but now I can say out loud that I’m trans. I told one person, and now telling the next doesn’t feel as scary. Just start with something you feel like you can handle and progress from there at your own pace. I’m still not all the way out yet, but I’m slowly getting more comfortable and taking new steps. It’s scary but so far it’s been worth it.
So my advice is to not worry about telling anyone until that feels like something you need to do. It’s okay to take it slow.
I can do nothing but it’s weird knowing what I actually want. I want to change everything. I finally understand why I’ll never like how I look as a guy. It’s crazy. I finally know what I’ve wanted to change. I’ve been banging my head against a wall for so long trying to figure out what I needed to do and I finally know.
You can do it!
In case it wasn’t clear I’m not recommending doing nothing, but for me it was helpful to know that that’s still a valid option because it let me give myself permission to move at a pace and towards an end goal that I’m comfortable with.
Yeah, I get what you mean. Its going to be a slow process for me with a lot of doing almost nothing. The biggest change is in how I’m thinking about myself.
I think the “do nothing” plan is a trap and I’m happy for you that you’re doing something
Thanks :)
In case it wasn’t clear I’m not recommending doing nothing, but for me it was helpful to know that that’s still a valid option because it let me give myself permission to move at a pace and towards an end goal that I’m comfortable with.