Hi! I’ve been extremely tired this week and nearly forgot that I was hosting one so I’m writing this last minute! I couldn’t think of anything so I’m going to write about one of my hamsters who is not Biggs; Meredith
Meredith was another hamster of mine from a few years ago during the early days of COVID, and she was the absolute sweetest little creature I had ever met. Very friendly, very gentle. She loved exploring anywhere I put her into and never bit me okay she did once ever. She was an absolute sweetheart and bundle of love and was with me during some of the rougher parts of my life
She unfortunately died very suddenly out of the blue one day at a terribly young age showing no symptoms of anything wrong with her prior, which breaks my heart to this very day
I never had her as long as any other hamster of mine but I don’t think I had any other hamster touch my heart in quite the same way. I miss you, girl
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I got approved for bottom surgery!!!
Came out to all of my friends today, they all knew me as a trans nb they/them
Now they know me as a woman
When random people I don’t know well bring up trans rights stuff while talking to me I’m always a bit suspicious that they clocked me and that that’s why they brought it up.
Something similar happened to me once. I was at a small festival with 3 other people, one of whom knew that I was trans, because I told them right before that. We were just talking about the usual stuff until suddenly the 2 that didn’t know started shitting on Rowling and talking about trans stuff.
I was completely baffled by that, because I’ve never seen cis people bring that up by themselves, not even today. I just stood there and said nothing, while they continued. I was absolutely sure that the 3rd person must have outed me beforehand, and that the others just said that to make me feel more at ease.
But as it turned out, it was just a really weird coincidence and me not expecting such a thing ever happening because I live in a conservative area where trans stuff is ignored for the most part.
Congrats on being around people who bring up trans rights stuff. Pretty much only see transphobia expressed by people who I’m not out to.
Did have someone blame T on me being warm whom I wondered if that was an indirect way of her asking if I’d changed hormones since I’d last seen her years ago. Can’t say I’ve heard of cis people mentioning T in casual conversation other than maybe “alpha male” types? OTOH, the more precise and inclusive language is cool.
I’m really lucky that I live in a progressive area and even if people mostly bring up trans rights stuff to virtue signal it’s still infinitely better than speaking with transphobes.
Came out to her. She is accepting. Talked about it a little bit. I didn’t tell her my name though. Don’t know why. But yea, went well and I feel good about that. Its nice not feeling so alone.
One other thought on this same line of thinking, when I first told my therapist one of his first questions was my sexuality. And I’ve kinda been worried every time since someone would ask but thankfully they haven’t 😅
Congratulations!!! 
Maybe one day you can share your name with her!
Thank you! Obviously was really scary for me, especially telling someone in real life who I see all the time.I really hope so
I love my name a lot- we will see.
Yay I’m glad!
So happy for you and so proud of you!!
I was leaving the bathroom as some guy was going in and he had to go back out to double check that he was in the men’s bathroom lol
I got called to set up a gynecologist appointment in a few months 😵💫
You barely got approved for a vagina, and Big Gyno is already trying to subject you to the Vaginal Industrial Complex
Good luck gynecologist, rn there is no vagina. Maybe if you poke my perineum and say the magic words
I was just reflecting on the day I came out to myself as a trans woman and I feel all the emotions flooding back to me and now I’m sitting here in bed bawling the happiest tears I’ve cried in a long time. This feels like pure trans joy and catharsis.
Proud of you, comrade!Thank you
reminds me of the time i came out to one of my closest (trans woman) friends and i broke down in tears when i finally got to tell myself “I don’t have to be cis anymore”
That sounds so beautiful
family nonsense
My mom has been absolutely horrendous to me ever since I came out. She’s refused to talk about trans stuff with me even though I have asked 6 times now. She has avoided it every single time. She’s been guilt tripping me and acting like I’m being unreasonable and needy when literally all I’m asking is for her to call me by my name, or at the very least tell me why she won’t. It’s been a thing for like a month and a half now. Since she was ignoring me when I was trying to talk to her, I ignored her when she needed information from me, and it led to a 6 hour inconvenience on her part. Now she’s gotten it into her head that she’s been nothing but supportive and great this whole time and I’ve gone no contact at the slightest push back from her, when in actuality, I actively tried to talk to her for a month and a half and she ignored me. I guess she’s getting what she wants, because I’m not planning on talking to her again after this. She’s acting like I never gave her a chance, but I did. That was it. And she stepped all over it.
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It can be truly heartbreaking to be treated like that by the person who’s supposed to love you the most. So it’s good that you’re planning on distancing yourself from that instead of falling for these manipulation tactis by her and this other person. You deserve some rest from this nonsense.
My lips too small; my teeth too big. I’m a mouse girl now.
Cheese to meet you.
Quick mouse girl! Dr house says my son needs more mouse bites to live!!!
Me :3
Finally a good day 😢haven’t happy cried in a long time and have been off and on all day. Mostly about telling my friend but also reconnected with one of my online friends and played some CS/the finals and it was a really good time. idk today has been a good one.
Happy for you 🫂
Feels like coming out had a good effect on you~
Definitely
Thank you for encouraging me earlier. I really wanted to and was hoping someone would help give me a nudge.
I’m so happy for you! Congrats on telling your friend as well
I’m so glad the good feels kept going, you deserve it!
I’m glad it was a good day!!!
Thank you :cat-trans: I had meant to message you and talk about it. But yes a good one! And another good one today tbh
I’m starting to become uncomfortable with how gay people here are.
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It’s not gay enough. I’d be more comfortable if it were gayer.
Broke: I’m considering orchie for anti androgen reasons
Bespoke: I’m considering orchie so my high waisted pants are more comfortable.
Verifying that this a fucking rad reason to do this.
dipshit customer: “hey how come you’re the only one here wearing the mask?”
the answer i should have given: “the same reason you’re wearing sunglasses indoors”
the answer i actually gave: “personal choice”
the REAL answer: “i’m a trans woman and didn’t bother shaving today”
Went on garden date with wife
It’s that time again, goodbye for now comrades
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