• sleen@lemmy.zipEnglish
    14·
    3 hours ago

    OP doesn’t understand what cultural progression is. Of course different people gonna do stuff differently as time progresses, the class she was when you where in high school is just irrelevant.

    This is the case where op just has skill issue, and is stuck in the past like a boomer he is.

    • Lucky_777@lemmy.world
      4·
      53 minutes ago

      When you call someone born in the late 1990s a boomer though. It might be “hip” or “trendy” to do. But Boomers were born in the 50s man. Young kids calling adults from different generations “Boomers” just makes you sound like you didn’t pay attention in history class.

  • QueenHawlSera@sh.itjust.works
    251·
    6 hours ago

    I’m 34 dating a 25 year old myself. Which I checked, it passes the “Half your age plus 7” test

    (34 / 2 = 17 + 7 = 24) Sometimes I still feel weird about it though

    • ethaver@kbin.earth
      231·
      6 hours ago

      @ 30 22 feels waaay too damn young. tf am I even gonna talk to this person about? I’m a decade in to a high stress high reliability industry. I’m starting to get Greg grey hairs! I make jokes about all the child rapists I met while working for the state! Too much happened in that 8 years between us. Too damn much.

    • FauxLiving@lemmy.world
      4·
      52 minutes ago

      When we decided to mind our own business and stop moralizing other people’s relationships based on our personal feelings.

    • Nikls94@lemmy.world
      512·
      7 hours ago

      Wow that actually makes sense.

      But then again, I’m born 1994, there’s not so many I can actually date. I have like 1990 - 1998 available, and they must be an only child or have siblings within that age as well, otherwise the interests are not overlapping enough to spend time together: those younger are TikTok addicted, those older are Facebook-relicts. I’m in limbo where I know all of that but don’t like anything.

      Edit: to those who downvoted, why?

      • ArcaneSlime@lemmy.dbzer0.com
        1·
        30 minutes ago

        The clumsy portmanteau of facebook and derelicts if I had to guess. That one is just dreadful. Go with Facebougoise or something, The Faceborg maybe (I actually like that one), something like that.

      • ɯᴉuoʇuɐ@lemmy.dbzer0.com
        14·
        4 hours ago

        to those who downvoted, why?

        Because of this part:

        they must be an only child or have siblings within that age as well, otherwise the interests are not overlapping enough to spend time together

      • abysmalpoptart@lemmy.world
        22·
        7 hours ago

        Just for a little context, the minimum age being ((your age / 2)+7) is meant to be “this is the minimum age of someone you can date without it being creepy” (i believe it originated from the TV show how i met your mother)

        If you were born in 1994 you are either 30 or 31. Let’s call it 30 for easy math.

        30/2 = 15 15+7=22

        So anyone who is 22 or older fits the minimum age concept, which is anyone born in approx 2002/2003 or earlier. If you decided to include that, the extra 4-5 years does increase the dating pool quite a bit.

        I’m not telling you who to date, just giving a little context to the math since that’s what was brought up in the original comment.

        • Denjin@feddit.uk
          2·
          1 hour ago

          No one knows the true origin of the idea but there’s a number of examples that predate how I met your mother by over a hundred years.

          The first published example is Max O’Rell in Her Royal Highness, Woman: And His Majesty—Cupid from 1901

          I heard the other day a very good piece of advice, which I should like to repeat here, as I endorse it thoroughly : A man should marry a woman half his age, plus seven. Try it at whatever age you like, and you will find it works very well, taking for granted all the while that, after all, a man as well as a woman is the age that he looks and feels.

        • Waraugh@lemmy.dbzer0.com
          2·
          2 hours ago

          It had to be a thing before how I met your mother, I remember it being a thing during school in the 80-90’s

        • AlolanYoda@mander.xyz
          5·
          4 hours ago

          Invert this rule to get the maximum age you can date (defined as the person whose minimum age is your current age):

          min age = (your age / 2) + 7 max age = (your age * 2) - 14

          If you’re 30, then you can reasonably date people between 22 and 46. So the other guy can add even more years before 1990.

        • zout@fedia.io
          3·
          4 hours ago

          Also, for the maximum age they are the younger one. So assuming age is 30, substract 7 and multiply the outcome by 2, maximum date age is 46…

        • ikt@aussie.zone
          17·
          7 hours ago

          (i believe it originated from the TV show how i met your mother)

          Although the provenance of the rule is unclear, it is sometimes said to have originated in France.[81] The rule appears in John Fox Jr.'s 1903 novel The Little Shepherd of Kingdom Come,[84] in American newspapers in 1931 attributed to Maurice Chevalier,[85] and in The Autobiography of Malcolm X, attributed to Elijah Muhammad.[86]

          In many early sources, the rule was primarily presented as a formula to calculate the ideal age of a female partner at the beginning of a heterosexual relationship. Frederick Locker-Lampson’s Patchwork from 1879 states the opinion “A wife should be half the age of her husband with seven years added.”[87] Max O’Rell’s Her Royal Highness Woman from 1901 gives the rule in the format “A man should marry a woman half his age, plus seven.”[88]

          https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Age_disparity_in_sexual_relationships

  • abbadon420@sh.itjust.works
    913·
    8 hours ago

    Maybe OP could date a 9 year old on the side, to fill the age gap. Or is OP not rich enough to pull that of?