• Scrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.tech
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    As someone who comes from a small town and moved to a city - this is all 100% accurate. I wasn’t 2 years out of high school and started noticing people my age had already both had kids and were starting to get divorces. Good ol’ fashioned home-town morals.

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    I mean, unironically, kudos for being realistic and also not havin the same ‘my personality is I like dog/cat and outdoor activity/athletic activity and want to travel’ profile.

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      And yet many women prefer that. Tinder is shit anyway, it’s rarely for serious relationships. I heard only 10% of matches on Tinder end up seriously. My friend’s experience corroborates that.

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        I’ve been out of the dating game for a while. Isn’t Tinder aimed mostly at one-night stands? Doesn’t one filter solely by appearance, by swiping people?

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          I haven’t used Tinder in a while, and never got any dates from it, but the app is really superficial. It seems to be only for the ridiculously good looking people, so yeah, the app is more popular for one night stands. Swiping on people is the norm for any dating apps, but the algorithm on Tinder seems to be more discriminatory, I understand.

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    I live in a rural area too and still have all my teeth too, well, except for one that I lost when the back of a folded stock shotgun hit me in the face when I was a kid and wasn’t prepared for the recoil without the stock against my shoulder. But I had that tooth replaced with a fake one, so it still looks like I have all my teeth.

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    What small town is this from? … asking for a friend … who also has all their teeth.

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    I feel like there’s the workings of a madlibs style remix of this post if you swap the right bits around, but I can’t quite crack it

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    I have an hypothesis on “small town hot”, with no basis but my observations.

    People tend to be hotter and fitter in small towns because the competition for a mate is so stiff. Also, the attractiveness is out of scale with the lower incomes. Also, there seems to be less of a middle ground. You’re either hot or a fat slob.

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      I assumed it meant the opposite: ‘hot relative to the limited choices in the local dating pool but average if compared to like models etc’

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        Small town would be homeless in a large city, that’s why they are in the town.

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        Never been around small towns? The selection pressure is immense.

        My camp is outside a town of 900 souls. Observe the people going in and out the local grocery/convenience store vs. the people at a Circle K in the city. Night and day.

        In a large population, you can be fat, plain, unstylish, whatever, still find a mate. Of course that doesn’t account for “the best of the best”, but seems to me “average” is quite a bit higher in rural areas, even given the lower income.

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          Bro I don’t know how to tell you this but rurals be fucking and it’s not always pretty.

          You’re going way too pseudoscience buzzword bullshit on this, villages of 500 people did just fine historically and “small towns” in America are about 5000.

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        So does redneck business. Ever met a young man who works a ranch or farm? LOL, walking doesn’t get you that body. And the women have to compete for such men.

        My take isn’t rural vs. city, good or bad. I’m simply stating what I’ve seen IRL.

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          That’s not really small town though, in my mind. I was thinking of like suburbs where people drive everywhere.

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            Suburbs usually aren’t “small town” as far as I have heard. Small town is usually surrounded by rural, yet has a decent population. Though I will agree most small towns still involve driving. The properties are often bigger. To get to walkable you need tiny town… in which you also wouldn’t need the app, cause you already know everyone.