I went to a women’s shelter to go over safety planning with a social worker to leave my ex last week. That was a hard step to take. Wish me luck.
best of luck!
Good luck.
Stay strong.
I haven’t had a single drink since I got pregnant.
Kid is 4 now. I am still sober. I planned on quitting and was cutting it down when TTC, only having some drinks on New Year’s. But I had so many relapses in the previous years. I was scared that I wouldn’t be able to stay sober throughout pregnancy, let alone motherhood.
It was the easiest thing to not have a drink during pregnancy, and it is still rather easy now. Even in dark, theoretically tempting times, it is so easy to say no. And I am incredibly proud. It is a miracle I made it out alive, let alone happily and free from fucking alcohol.
I feel like alcohol really gets away on women. I have known two women who sort of just became casual alcoholics without really noticing, like just suddenly it crept up on them that they were drinking lighter forms of alcohol in significant quantities, but it just all seemed like being social and relaxing, and it wasn’t until they each had in their mid forties a stroke and an aneurysm respectively. Neither of them were drinking to cope with difficulties or anything with a maladaptive intent, it was done in a social fashion only, and then suddenly became a huge problem.
I think drinking for women is different than drinking for men, and I think we have worse outcomes as a result.
I don’t really drink anymore, maybe 2-3 times a year I’ll have a single drink. I never had any sort of habit before but I liked my glass or two of wine on a weekend. But I just felt like it would be better to stop, and it was.
Congratulations on your sobriety, it’s a hard thing to achieve!
Edit: found the article I was thinking of: https://medium.com/gentleblog/why-alcohol-poses-a-greater-danger-to-women-a56bc21496d6
odd alcohol usually prevents clotting.
sucked off a whole boat of cocks one time
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Was strong enough to overcome the harsh realities of dealing with heartbreak and depression. It took a lot of nights crying myself to sleep, days fighting with my suicidal thoughts, and my “inner demons” bashing negative comments to myself to finally have a calmer mind.
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Got my driver’s license after after having a panic attack. I passed on the 3rd try, but I had a panic attack on my 1st in public at the DMV and had a total meltdown in front of strangers on the 2nd try because I failed. I was learning how to drive while being heartbroken after being dumped by my ex. So, I was extremely disappointed in myself that I failed the behind the wheel test because I really did give it my all, my best effort to learn while being depressed as shit, but received a failing grade in the end.
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Learned from my failures. And is now a much wiser person than I was 3 years ago. I grew up because of my break-up and failures. Aka, growing pains. I learned a lot about myself, learned how to heal, how to deal with pain, suffering, and mental health + gained different perspective about life/relationships, gained new friends and is (slightly) happier than I was 2-3 years ago.
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Today, along with a non-profit I helped found, I organized a local clothing swap.
I got my company to start using an environmentally sustainable solvent called d-limonene rather than continuing to use petroleum based solvents which were much more toxic.
Couple days ago I did a bouldering climb on the first try, pretty proud of that
So on my college campus there was this nutty (by the standards of the time unfortunately might be considered normal now) guy who would preach. The students found it funny and many would gather around and ask him to tell them about the homosexuals or the communists because he would go off on these crazy stories and tirades which again the students found funny. One day the crowd grew mean and eventually one guy stole his sweater. I confronted him and had him give back the sweater and the mob mentality feeling subsided.
After being in a band for over 12 years, we finally recorded and released a song.
I’m in a similar boat. I’ve been producing music for nearly ten years in Ableton, including stuff for some local theater, but this will be my first year releasing an album. Making music takes a lot of time and effort, I found out.
well you should be able to in Ableton, but nice to hear
I started lifting weights at age 56. I’m not stopping until I’m dead.
How did you get started?
I started after a long period of not lifting for several years and I was very weak and out of shape. Plenty of aches all over that I got tired of.
I started with bands at home. After a month or two I switched to my dumbbells and body weight. Mostly because the bands had noticeable differences in tension. A 20 pound dumbbell is 20 pounds.
My current collection of dumbbells are pairs of 10, 20, and 30 pounds.
The first 9 months was a lot of experimenting with so so gains. One of my biggest mistakes was taking all sets to failure and often beyond. This resulted in a lot fatigue and slowed my recovery.
Protein powder made a major difference once my volume increased.
Since I lift at home with limited weight selection, I keep adding reps to my sets.
I found the following Youtubers to be very helpful: Renaissance Periodization https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCfQgsKhHjSyRLOp9mnffqVg
The Bioneer https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCIh_TPYPqjJuS_-nOfAIlfg
Lean Beef Patty https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxTclqPDlFzC6yMVtWYm_DA
Dr. Milo Wolf https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCru8Ef3TDFaJOOTfAZ52iFA
and Jeff Nippard https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC68TLK0mAEzUyHx5x5k-S1Q
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My first bunny passed away in January. He was the first pet I had as an adult who was strictly my responsibility and no one else’s. A rabbit’s lifespan is typically 8-12 years old. My gray boy lived until he was just a few weeks shy of 13 years old.
I’m proud I took such good care of him and proud he stuck around so long. I still miss my fella a lot, but I’ve used what he taught me to adopt and care for 2 rescue rabbits; one who was dropped at a shelter when she was 3 and another young guy who was found dumped in a parking lot. They are going to be just as spoiled as my grey boy was.
This is great, you should be proud. It sounds like you’re a good caregiver to your bunny buddies.
Thank you!
Similar boat, after our first rabbit passed away we decided to rescue a bunny to be a partner for our second rabbit, who was still only 4, when the first moved on. He was 8, and had a few serious medical events after a rough patch with seizures, and he was on weekly antibiotic injections for two years.
Rescue bunny is a big new Zealand red eyed white, who is very picky, blind, and anxious. After a few tough months where we had to segregate the house, we managed to bond them but he has never been all that relaxed around humans or tolerant of grooming, nail trimming, etc etc.
He’s now 3.5 years old, we adopted him at 9 months. This month he’s started letting us pick him up without struggling (for nail trims), started flopping while being pet/near us, and is all around a lot less anxious (except for scary things like dogs, birds, and loud noises - he is almost completely blind I think).
They’re just such sweet animals once they form a relationship with you, but most people don’t “speak” rabbit love as easily as they “speak” dog or cat love. Nothing better than our little lady running to my feet every morning when I get up, and grooming my legs every time I sit on the floor!
I’m sorry you lost your first bun. Sounds like you really loved and cared for him well. REWs are so misunderstood and I’m happy yours is getting used to you, some buns just take a while to get comfortable around humans. They are such sweet little creatures, although my young boy is going through his terrible twos right now 😩🙃
I love all pets, but there is something truly special about earning the love and trust of a prey animal whose every instinct is to run and hide. They really are something special.
I’m very sorry for your loss, but that’s a really great accomplishment. I’m glad you 2 were able to find each other and that you were able to learn from your experience with him. All the best <3
Thank you! I appreciate that :)
I’m 6 years sober this month
Congrats!
Congratulations!
Well done, keep it up.
Probably my favorite in the thread. Congrats.
I’ve built like 1/5 of the furniture in my house, which is pretty neat.
About 20 years ago, I stopped studying quantum mechanics because it frustrated me so much; I wanted to understand the “quantum regime.” After coming back to study more, I’ve made a lot of progress. I always hated that some said quantum mechanics was weird, or if you think you understand it, you don’t. You just need to know there’s a difference between seeking ontology of the subatomic, Vs the epistemic adequacy of quantum mechanics. While I’m nowhere near done studying physics overall, I’m still proud of my progress.
That’s impressive as hell! You should be proud!
I’ve replaced everything Google can do with self-hosted services. No more YouTube, Docs, Nest, TV, Photos, etc.
This is quite an accomplishment. Kudos.
For my family, the biggest hurdles by far is a mail/calendar combo that works as well and supports sharing etc, and how the hell to migrate out of Gmail when so many of my emails have several labels which won’t translate cleanly into IMAP folders. I wonder how you tackled those, or how you compromised.
I’ve found proton’s mail/calendar to be pretty good so far. Sharing works great if everyone has proton. If they don’t they can share an invite and you can add it to your calendar but you won’t get their updates unfortunately.
Thanks! I switched over to private email provided by my domain host. It was a cheap and easy alternative. I haven’t done this for my family, though, since I feel that’s their call whether to stay plugged in. As far as labels go, I don’t really use them, so there wasn’t much need for compromise.
