You’re welcome.

      • alexei_1917 [mirror/your pronouns]@hexbear.net
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        A comrade who gets it! Grippy socks are fun. I had a pair when I was two with Pooh Bear’s face on the fabric and hunny pot shaped tiny grippy bits. I wish they made Pooh Bear grippy socks in a ladies shoe size 9. I mean, I’m sure you can get bear themed ones, not crazy easy to find but out there somewhere, but it’s the Pooh hunny pots I really liked.

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    But transition is haaaaaaard and it takes wooooork… Why can’t I just wallow in dysphoria and be done with it (this is very much a joke for my fellow NDs or just in case someone doesn’t pick up the tone on text)

    EDIT: this post is my mental monologue when thinking about transitioning and dealing with my gender dysphoria, it is not meant in mean spirits or making fun of people struggling with the same issues. I really do think you all should be what you feel you are, and I only wish you peace and happiness now and always.

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      But transition is hard, why can’t I just be done with it

      Unironicly tho.

      Are you making fun of other people who are like this or yourself? Because it kinda reads like you’re mocking people who struggle with it

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        I was making fun of myself, and why I’m dragging my feet with a lot of gender/transition-related stuff - including but not limited to figuring out what I want my gender expression to actually be.

        The second bit was a reference to how my therapist has also pointed out that I have a tendency to romanticize my suffering and to prefer to be in shitty situations (depression, gender dysphoria, shitty relationships for example) instead of taking steps to actually feel better.

        I can see why someone might perceive it as making fun of people struggling. I really didn’t mean that. I often use self-deprecating humor to cope with the tension and discomfort I’m feeling within myself. I’ll edit my original post.

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    My friend can’t girlmode due to her circumstances and it sounds sooooo frustrating and I feel for her sooo much. She’s in her early 20s and relies on her non-supportive parents to live. I can’t wait for her to move out and fully be able to be herself.

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      Well, I for one would notice my gender issues way less if I could be a bear… that’d be way better than being a man, or a woman, or having to deal with human sexual dimorphism and gender presentation at all. Bears are so cool (and have no right to be as hug shaped as they are).