Y’know, when I signed up for this back in June I had grand plans for some grand writeup on the domestically produced unmagnified gunsights of Cuba. I had collected images and info and sources but I lost sight of it as life stuff happened and my time for the trans mega snuck up on me.
Que sera sera.
Anyways, today felt like the first whisper (you have no idea how hard I just thought about the ideal word for this metaphor) of autumn and that put me in the mood for one of my favorite autumnal albums. More Constant Than the Gods by SubRosa is a really lovely doom? sludge? metal album. I like how big it sounds. The lead vocalist is a really talented lady, and its got violins, also the lyrics talk about dying and stuff and I’m into that. Its very fall-y to me, as is Standard Time Volume 1 by Wynton Marsalis, but for extremely different reasons.
The funny thing is that, like the poster of the previous mega it is also my 5th transiversary, I started HRT half a decade ago today (ok technically it was the 17th but I’m gonna count it since thats when I started writing this). Now, I don’t think that taking HRT was what made me “officially trans”, rather it was the degree of self acceptance required to get to that point. It’s a long story, and one I prefer to share privately, but it took a very, very long time before my fear and desperation gave me the strength to allow myself to have this. I think it all turned out pretty well, I experience existence in much higher fidelity, I’m this whole person, along with everything that entails.
I feel very blessed to be transgender.
I hope you all stay safe and have a good, or atleast tolerable week.
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misgendering
Spent a week at my parent’s place, and while they’re both pretty supportive they keep accidentally using the wrong pronouns.
I try to tell myself it’s just old habit, but I keep wondering if maybe I’m not feminine enough and that’s why they mess up so often.
Also, I had to try boymoding going out to dinner with my grandparents, which sucked. I need to tell them since I want them to still be in my life but idk if they would understand.
spoiler
Even when I didnt pass even a little, all I had was makeup and longish hair and a skirt, my friends got my pronouns FAST. My mom got it quickly too, bless her because I wasn’t out to all my family so she had to figure out when to use he/him and she/her for a while.
The only thing she was bad about was referring to me as Uncle Terminal, until I talked to her and then she got it.
Misgendering is not on you, tell them it hurts and correct them every time