• ZILtoid1991@lemmy.world
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    Reminder, that porn addiction was made up by evangelists to push the narrative, that porn is always bad and must be banned.

    This narrative, alongside with the rampant sexism and transphobia, caused a tremendous harm to my psyche, a lot more than what porn actually caused to me in my whole life (sore frenulum, and maybe that time could have been “spent better”). Humans are naturally hard wired to need it, unless they’re aces, and similarly to those who are not as much into it, there are those who need sexual things much more.

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      Porn addiction is as real as any other addiction, however it is not like you are getting hooked on porn after seeing one titty for a single frame.

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        Anything that provides pleasure and triggers the reward center of the brain can be addictive. There’s no need to single out porn in that discussion.

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          Bingo. Just like video games, television/movies, work, collectibles, exercise, and house pets, any activity can become problematic, but it’s not the activity itself that’s the problem. The issue is the underlying pathology that drives someone to unhealthy levels of engagement.

          It just occurred to me how willing society is to overlook problematic behavior if it’s “productive”. 80 hours a week working or making art? Likely to be accepted. 80 hours a week spent collecting figurines or working on your train set? Whoa there, crazy conductor!

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        Even if we assume that porn/sex can be addictive, maybe it could create some habitual type situation, there are still these issues:

        1. Other non-chemical addictions such as gambling are not being near as close stigmatized, only video gaming comes kind of close, and only because the very same people can blame mass shootings on it.
        2. A lot of non-chemical addictions can be overcome with the smallest of willpower. A week later I deleted Xitter from my phone I barely checked the desktop version too, and I only have Facebook because family and friends. My country Hungary made tens of thousands of gamblers quit after they banned slot machines from pubs (rare Fidesz W, even if done to drive people into casinos).
        3. Even actual chemical addictions like tobacco and alcohol is sidelined, if not outright encouraged, because “muh nashunal treshurs” like in Hungary.
        4. Porn addiction is often described as just as bad if not worse than cocaine, as a scare tactic. I’m a habitual consumer of porn, but there were times I could not get access to it and were fine, and the times I wasn’t fine was due to I couldn’t masturbate at all (which nowadays includes anal masturbation too), and it just seems like I have a higher drive than what other guys should have.
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      Always has been. It always felt like a Christian beachhead into internet culture, very reminiscent of church run queer aa groups, but like, the kind where they wind up trying to get you to join because you enjoy socializing at gay bars.

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        It always felt like a Christian beachhead into internet culture

        That is because it was. So much internet bro culture is deeply rooted in US religious nuttery.

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    Translation: I jerk off in the bathroom at work because that’s the only place my wife can’t catch me.

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      I legit feel bad for people who can’t enjoy porn with their significant other. The sex must be awful.

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        Idk man, my SO needs porn to have a plot to enjoy it and I’m just not prepared to consider the motivation of the actors and actresses on the screen and get lost in the story. That doesn’t mean we don’t still know how to enter each other’s cheat codes, we don’t need visual aids for that.

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    Complicated way of saying:

    “since I don’t masterbate as much I want to fuck her more.”

    That would have made for a more punchy LinkedIn headline as well.

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    People can get addicted to anything. People literally get addicted to water and drink so much it dilutes the sodium in their body.
    If you are going to ban porn because one freak spanks his monkey nonstop then you need to ban water as well because people can actually die from those reduced sodium levels … but won’t die from a monkey spanking porn marathon.

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      I hear oxygen is toxic and dissolves you from the insides. We should ban that too.

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        All of the people that breathe oxygen have died or will die … thus oxygen breathing is 100% fatal as well as addictive … BAN NOW!

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    Promoted, lol. I bet his wife just wanted to humiliate him and he accepted in a bid to save the marriage.

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    Not me, I watch porn when I feel like it. My wife knows about it and its totally fine because we’re adults and know what all those sex parts look like and what they do.

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    Great, now the rest of us will need to watch more porn to take up the slack. Porn’s not going to watch itself.