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  • gaystyleJoker [she/her]@hexbear.netMEnglish
    6·
    13 days ago

    i’m making a list and checking it twice, if you don’t sign up i’m not gonna be nice. sign up to make a damn mega

    if you have a preferred week please tell me

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    ​ * after name denotes someone who has posted before and will be skipped by first-time posters

  • XiaCobolt [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
    2·
    7 days ago

    Thinking about getting an altar cloth, circlet to wear on my head and candles/lighter to fit in my handbag as a bit for when I offer to do someone’s Tarot.

  • XiaCobolt [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
    20·
    13 days ago

    Recent conversations with my mum (who is mostly cool): I understand you’re a woman but why when you were younger you were interested in [perfectly normal activity that is in fact a cliche that autistic trans women enjoy it so much] or [toxically masculine compensation that brought me no joy].

    Yes mum I still love trains, no I don’t do misogyny anymore.

  • XiaCobolt [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
    17·
    10 days ago

    I love my Cis Italian girl friends. I was telling one of them how the best thing about transition was every woman I met being nice to me.

    Then I corrected “well 9 out of 10 women” and immediately she was like “who are the 1 out of 10? Do I know them?” (While looking around the function) like she was ready to start a fight then and there.

  • BountifulEggnog [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
    17·
    14 days ago

    Okay, new mega so I’ll post my things now:

    Looks like the move is official, I was waiting to post until it was signed but they’re telling my younger siblings later and wouldn’t if we weren’t actually moving since they aren’t expecting one of them to take it well. So that’s obviously pretty cool, I’m a bit worried about getting a job again and reintergrating that way but it shouldn’t be a huge deal. Hope there’s good facilities there. Very hopeful I’ll be able to get some good experience and build my (very pathetic) resume a bit over this next year.

    Bad news, my irl friend feels like she’s getting more and more distant. Hasn’t sent me anything in a week, yes I’ve messaged. I just feel so sad. If it’s real and I’m not just being over sensitive to rejection it’s definitely because I asked for her to use my name and pronouns. She never did and just awkwardly apologized. I knew this would happen. Why did I delude myself into thinking she might be cool about it. Six years… Basically my only irl friend… Idk if anyone else from work is interested in being friends outside of work. Fuck I’m alone

  • lilypad [it/its, pup/pup's]@hexbear.netEnglish
    17·
    9 days ago
    sad about the state of things and how people treat us (cw mention of violence, sex)

    Last week my friend got hatecrimed (shes ok, a couple of her friends have concussions, thats about it). Then today some guy tried to solicit sex from me (while i was wearing a rather queer outfit and shoes that added 10cm to my 193cm height, i thought i looked like a femme who could stomp your head in) and when i ignored him he followed me and drove slowly after me, drove around the block multiple times to follow me and keep talking to me, when i stopped for a cig outside my apt he was suddenly there driving from the opposite direction (meaning he either knows where i live or he guessed i was gonna stop there or he quickly circled around to head me off). It was midday, broad daylight.

    Im just sad. Frustrated. My neighborhood is safe. Except it isnt. My world is fine. Except it isnt. Just a fucked reminder that even in queer-safe/friendly neighborhoods, cis men feel entitled to my body, entitled to buy sex from me.

    And my friend! She doesnt feel safe anywhere now! She deserves better than that! I deserve better than that, than this.

    This just sucks.

  • EstraDoll [she/her, he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
    15·
    10 days ago

    being a woman is so fucking wack. i spent like 20 minutes the other day carefully picking out an outfit just to meet up with my grandfather to grab lunch at carl’s Jr. and got totally overdressed and then i got to work later and there’s just some guy there who looked at cargo shorts and a t shirt that said “deez nuts” on it and called it a fit

    • TerminalEncounter [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
      8·
      9 days ago

      The last few times Ive been out at a restaurant, there’s been a couple young people out on what seems like a first date. Shes always dressed up, hair looks good and probably took time, makeup looks great. Clearly put a lot of effort. Hes got a trucker hat, gross edgy t shirt, sweats, doesnt look like hes showered today. If youre lucky the dudes wearing jeans.

      • TerminalEncounter [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
        8·
        13 days ago

        I cracked my egg in January 2019, squeeked out right before covid~ I still remember wearing a bralette under my boy clothes and painting my toenails, stealing my exes panties, getting laser hair removal for all that year.

        Covid DID let me experiment a lot more at home and have an excuse to wear a mask outside though. And by September 2020 I knew for sure I wanted to go all the way.

        • CrookedSerpent [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
          8·
          13 days ago

          Real! My egg crack was after the start of my social transition… XD

          I started using “girl voice” all the time and wearing girl clothes and shaving all my body/face hair just cuz it felt nice :) I only started actually thinking of myself as a trans woman after people started she/her-ing me in public and I read some queer theory lol

          • WalrusDragonOnABike [they/them]@reddthat.com
            6·
            13 days ago
            Egging

            I feel like my mom socially transitioned as a child and still hasn’t had her egg crack. Says she’s a woman because of the bits she was born with, even if she dressed in mens clothes, has a deep voice, is fine with being he/him/sir’d, acknowledges she’s treated as a guy in some social situations, and says she’d rather be on T.

              • WalrusDragonOnABike [they/them]@reddthat.com
                4·
                12 days ago

                I think it would be amusing if she’d start HRT without cracking too, but her excuse for not taking T was recent health issues (the biggest one being associated with T) when I suggested she should take it because she expressed interest in doing so without any sort of leading. Honestly, if she’s gotten what she’s wanted from transitioning without cracking, perhaps there’s not much point to realizing? And if she’s actually set on not taking HRT because of health issues, perhaps cracking would just lead to more stress about what she’s missing out on and how much she already missed out on?

    • SwitchyandWitchy [she/her]@hexbear.netMEnglish
      3·
      12 days ago

      Holy crap its been 5 years for me too! Or maybe 4? Goddamn I’ve gotten so little done in that time it’s depressing. Wait no! looks at the woman staring back in the mirror. I’ve done so much.

  • XiaCobolt [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
    15·
    14 days ago
    You locked the thread just as I did my big post!

    I had really lovely weekend. I met up with a fashion designer I like and hadn’t seen since I transitioned. He helped me style a really cute outfit with his stuff. Looking like an art teacher, pottery class, druid fusion that has been getting lots of compliments.

    I had tasty food, like mommos, bao and paella. I got my new vinyl record player set up and it worked without any issues. Then I went to a queer women’s lunch event and met lots of lovely lesbians, queer women, trans women and non binary etc.

    It’s funny because I’ve been getting into Tarot, even though I’m a historical materialist, secularist, atheist etc. Which means I don’t really believe in it, it’s mostly for fun, which is why it’s hilarious I’m keep getting really prescient draws (must be the chaos magick inherent to being trans).

    After this lovely day, I shuffled the deck and drew The Star (an auspicious card of self-healing and burdens let go), and I was like lol…

    Also previously I mentioned how my cis woman friend had shared her alopecia with me, as an example of the amount of overlap cis and trans women have with their body issues. Well on the weekend I listened to a trans woman and a cis woman compare the process of their breast augmentations (the latter having had developmental issues with her breasts).

    This morning I was talking to an entirely different friend my age about my estrogen dose and she revealed how she was having to take supplemental estrogen gel for premature menopause. Like us girls are all in this together.