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  • sodium_nitride [she/her, any]@hexbear.netEnglish
    9·
    28 days ago

    DAMCE REPORT 2:

    preliminary nonsense:

    1. I am doing substance abuse. It’s caffeine and alcohol. he-admit-it
    2. Studying is becoming kinda boring cause I keep learning shit I can’t apply.

    Dance:

    1. This shit really is horny. When we were split into “leaders” and “followers” half the class split into couples and started caressing each other. In order to continue with the classes, you need to find a permanent dance partner, and this seems to be basically your actual partner.
    2. This shit is gendered AF. Every single “follower” was a girl (even if we count me)! Even the instructor was just using female pronouns for everything. Kinda affirming?
    3. Everytime we switched partners, my new “leader” would give me a firm handshake and we would do introductions. This wasn’t done with anyone else (I was paying attention).
    4. Salsa is fun. But I don’t want to be cut out from dancing cause I don’t have a girlfriend/boyfriend. Why do we even need permanent dance partners?
    • BountifulEggnog [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
      11·
      28 days ago

      Everytime we switched partners, my new “leader” would give me a firm handshake and we would do introductions. This wasn’t done with anyone else (I was paying attention).

      Acab

      (all cis are bastards)

    • Babs [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
      7·
      28 days ago

      Yeah dance being so gendered is hard. I used to do a lot of swing dance, and learned to lead so that I could dance with this lady I had a crush on, but everyone just assumed I was a follow and pairing up was awkward. Eventually learned to follow just to make things easier for everyone. Being ambidancetrous is pretty cool too.

      The dancing scene is very horny, yes.

      • meler [she/her, ze/hir]@hexbear.netEnglish
        7·
        28 days ago

        I talked about this a bit on sodium’s last dance report but I used to do a ton of swing dance too. I learned to follow and lead and a lot of the guys made it really weird

        • Babs [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
          7·
          28 days ago

          One time I was at a big swing dance festival (8 hours of classes followed by nightly dances. It was intense!) and some guy once literally tried to get between me and a dance partner because he didn’t understand that I was there to learn lead.

    • SuperZutsuki [they/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
      7·
      28 days ago

      That sounds like a really shit way to run a salsa class. In my class they rotate follows every few minutes during the lesson part and in the social dancing part everyone changes partners after every song, pretty much. Part of being a good dancer is knowing how to dance with anyone as long as there’s good communication. If you only ever dance with same person, you’ll only learn how to understand their body language and no one else’s.

      Also, in my classes all the instructors will lead or follow during the social part according to what their partner wants to do, including switching halfway through (which is pretty sick when it goes smoothly).

      • sodium_nitride [she/her, any]@hexbear.netEnglish
        6·
        28 days ago

        Crazy thing is. They do actually switch followers. And they even say they will do it after you get a permanent dance partner, unless you don’t want to. Which makes it really confusing that it is mandatory to find a permanent partner. Otherwise you’ll be booted.

    • TerminalEncounter [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
      5·
      28 days ago

      I had a dance partner, we weren’t together and never were interested in being together romantically. We just worked really really well in terms of movement. My ex and I worked TERRIBLY as dance partners, although theyre my ex so maybe that was portentious? Anyway, I was the leader but Im used to that in most other aspects of my life (not just dance or bedroom stuff), I was also the base in a base-flyer dynamic simply because Im so dang tall and used to be pretty strong